I don’t think any of us can predict the curve balls life will throw at us. I know I got married and thought I could envision where my life would be headed. I had plans and I made promises to myself. In fact if you would’ve asked me where I thought my husband and I would be 17 years down the line- I never could have predicted that we’d be here. And that’s the real secret to a successful marriage- being able to roll with the proverbial punches and surprises that you didn’t plan for and find that you weather them as a team. In fact, in doing so, you actually strengthen your partnership and each successive bump in the road that you navigate as a team and overcome- well it is just one more notch in your marriage belt and a nail in that foundation you’re building.
I look back at these 15 years and I see all these experiences my husband and I have traversed and in many cases the things that could have torn us apart- by working through them a a team- actually made us a stronger couple. Of course every day is another day of learning and getting over humps and dealing with idiosyncrasies— and those little annoyances can also wreak havoc on a relationship- if you don’t abide by these 16 easy tips- to keep your marriage ROCK SOLID. For the record they are all REALLY simple and I guarantee you they work.
#1 Kiss each other Good Morning. (of course brush your teeth first).
#2 Say I love you every chance you get.
#3 Listen. Don’t pretend to listen– but really, really listen.
#4 Always tell the truth. (Your spouse will find out eventually and secrets in a marriage are like POISON).
#5 When you do something wrong admit it. Your spouse will appreciate you honesty and that you are allowing yourself to be vulnerable.)
#6 Speak Kindly. Remember once you say something- you can’t ever take it back and some spouses have memories like ELEPHANTS.
#7 Respect one another.
#8 Never yell at each other UNLESS the house is on fire. ( You get more with honey than vinegar).
#9 Remember why you fell in love.
#10 Fight fair.
#11 Be the first to say I’m sorry- Because ultimately you LOVE the other person and it’s really no fun to fight with your lover.
#12 Keep your promises- so you show that you can be depended on especially when the going gets tough and TRUST ME it will get tough.
#13 Have Fun together- marriage is full of so much responsibility some times its important to just let yourself off the hook and have fun.
#14 Hold hands every chance you get.
#15 Always kiss each other goodnight. ( NEVER GO TO BED ANGRY!)