Motherhood has changed me in ways that are hard to articulate. And you'd think after having a kid for 18 years I'd have this parenting thing down to a science but the cold hard truth is I don't.
This week I learned that asking my 14 year -old son how his day was will get me this response ,”Fine”.
But asking him what was the BEST part of his Day will ACTUALLY garner me some real live details about what he did and about his experience in that very moment.
I also learned that when it comes to my teen daughter pretending like I DON'T care and am not interested is the easiest way to get her to divulge her innermost thoughts and feelings with me.
It kinda reminds me of how I was supposed to play hard to get when I was dating ( a game I never did all that well with!)
Bottom line: As a Parent you will Make LOTS of Mistakes and That's Okay. I usually get several dozen messages forwarded to me (don't we all!) and while most are sweet, this one just really resonated with me and I wanted to share it.
Before I was a Mom
#1 I never tripped over toys or forgot words to a lullaby.
#2 I didn't worry whether or not my plants were poisonous.
#3 I never thought about immunizations.
#4 I had never been puked on.
#5 Pooped on.
#6 Chewed on.
#7 Peed on.
#8 I had complete control of my mind and my thoughts.
#9 I slept all night.
#10 I never held down a screaming child so doctors could do tests.
#11 Or give shots.
#12 I never looked into teary eyes and cried.
#13 I never got gloriously happy over a simple grin.
#14 I never sat up late hours at night watching a baby sleep.
#15 I never held a sleeping baby just because I didn't want to put him down.
#16 I never felt my heart break into a million pieces when I couldn't stop the hurt.
#17 I never knew that something so small could affect my life so much.
#18 I never knew that I could love someone so much.
#19 I never knew I would love being a Mom.
#20 I didn't know the feeling of having my heart outside my body.
#21 I didn't know how special it could feel to feed a hungry baby.
#22 I didn't know that bond between a mother and her child.
#23 I didn't know that something so small could make me feel so important and happy.
#24 I had never gotten up in the middle of the night every 10 minutes to make sure all
#25 I had never known the warmth, the joy, the love, the heartache, the wonderment or the satisfaction of being a Mom.
#26 I didn't know I was capable of feeling so much, before I was a Mom.