You would think after being married 19 years (this December 19th was 19 years of mostly wedded bliss if you overlook that time WE broke a radio and lamp fighting– it was JUST ONCE pre-kids) it would be pretty hard for my husband to surprise me. And yet I had to share these 3 Things I Learned About my Marriage This Week: Together We’re Everything
After 19 years you would think I’d know everything there is to know about this man- and if you watched any sitcoms we’d be at that juncture in our marriage where the laugh track would roll as I’d give my husband that “oh no you didn’t look” when I catch him taking his dirty jeans out of the laundry hamper and then we’d both watch him put them right back in and he’d say, “And I was just INCHES FROM A CLEAN GETAWAY”.
But that’s the cool thing about marriage– no matter how long you’ve been with a person- they can STILL surprise you. A situation can arise and they can react to it in a way that makes you look at them and think- “Now I know why it didn’t work with anyone Until I met him”. In three separate situations this week my husband taught me something about him and about myself and reminded me that our marriage is my soft place to fall.
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3 Things I Learned About my Marriage This Week: Together We’re Everything
#1 Always SIDE with my husband. My daughter wanted to have three sleepovers this weekend-my husband and I agreed to one. When Saturday night rolled around and my daughter wanted another one- my husband said no. Me being the FUN MOM I am always bending over backwards to please my kids – and it is usually to my detriment- but this time I sided with my husband and it was the best decision I ever made-why? Because my husband who is not one to mince his words came over to me and said, “Thank you for having my back. I love when we work together as a team.” And even after all these years of marriage- it feels so good to hear someone tell me that I am part of their team. Even if that team consists of just the two of us.
#2 When I’m in the clutch, my husband CAN stay up and keep me company till 10pm on a weekday night. Some times I have to host twitter parties. I usually do this on my own. However after a long weekend I was exhausted but needed to host this chat and my husband who usually tucks himself in at 9pm, sat up with me until 10 pm and kept me company and provided some great fodder for my tweets!
#3 The minute I stop NAGGING is the minute my husband starts doing stuff. You would think I would learn after 19 years of marriage to SHUT MY PIE HOLE. But I’m a creature of habit. If something is bothering me- I NEED TO GET IT OFF MY CHEST. Of course my husband does not respond to my nagging very well. But this weekend- perhaps because I was so busy I had NO TIME to nag- and LO and Behold it was as of the heavens opened up and the angels began to sing- my husband did SO MANY THINGS ON HIS OWN.