Qualities That Make a Man Rockstar Husband Material
When I met my husband in July of 1997, we had one of those intense whirlwind dates one might think would only take place in the pages of a novel.
We were smitten with one another at our very first meeting; a blind date that began with rollerblading at 2pm and ended at an Italian restaurant at 12 midnight. On that first date I can confidently say it was lust at first sight.
When did I know it was love? On our second date when my husband brought me a pair of wrist guards so that I'd be protected, the next time I went rollerblading, For me that one small token of kindness, characterized what I believed was his nurturing and caring interior life. Almost immediately, although I was just 23 at the time, I thought wow, this guy will make a great husband and father. And here we are so many years later and just several days ago, my husband once again demonstrated the qualities that I think make him a rock star of a husband. He called me from the pharmacy while shopping for some toiletries and asked, “Honey, do you need pads with or without wings?” Now the fact that he actively takes it upon himself to buy feminine hygiene products is one thing- but he takes it to a whole new level by actually knowing and caring about getting the specific brand and type of maxi pad I prefer. THAT is love or, more aptly, an action that classifies a man as good husband material.
So I thought I'd put a call out to other wives to find out what it was about their men that they felt made them rock star husband material, and here's what a few of them said!
Qualities That Make a Man Rockstar Husband Material
#1 Respects everyone: Before we married, I watched how my husband treated service workers: the guy that changed the oil in our cars, the Starbucks barista, the bank teller, the hotel valet, etc. My mother suggested that a man's treatment of those people is a good barometer how he will treat his spouse after a few years of marriage. I noticed my husband called these people by their names, seemed genuinely interested in them as individuals and tipped generously. True to my mother's prediction, my husband has continued to show respect, interest and generosity in our home. -Rebecca McCormick Syndicated Travel Journalist and Photographer.
#2 Demonstrates Perseverance: My now-husband showed a perseverance streak early in our dating life when he continued to want to date me even though I broke up with him several times, and even chose a different college! Some would call that foolish on his part. But eventually I transferred to his college and we were married almost 18 years ago. Since then, he has persevered through family of origin adversity, our mutual job changes, two children, the death of his mom and the evolution of his music profession in public education A guy who sticks by you at your best and at your worst, can make you laugh and talk with you about anything that's my husband, Andy. -Christine Nelson Communications Consultant
#3 Selflessness, puts your needs before his own: I have a great husband. We have been together twelve years. Married six May 5th. We were thirty when we met, old enough to have kissed a lot of frogs. I just told my nephew this the other day. If a man opens your door for you, he's a keeper. It's not just about opening the door. It shows a woman that you respect her. It shows you are willing to put her first. It shows that you think of others and not just yourself. That one small gesture resonates in the rest of my life with my husband. He doesn't scarf down the last piece of pie. He checks in to see if I want some. He comes out to the car and helps me with packages. He's just a gentlemen. In life, love and marriage it all starts with a door. -Jessica Mandoki Cook
#4 A man who has your back: I've been married 19 years and the one constant that reminds me I made the right choice is that my husband is my support system. No matter what the problem, big or small, he's there to help me with it. He always has been. When I see a single friend dating someone who doesn't “have their back” I always advise them that there is nothing more important in a relationship than having a partner you can count on to be there for you when times get a little tough. Life isn't always easy, and if you're with someone long enough you'll experience your fair share of tough times. In times like those it's good to have the strength of two people instead of just one. -Wendi C.
#5 A husband who has easy to live by ground rules: My husband Paul was previously married, and divorced very young. So he knew what he wanted. He had three rules he put up front: 1. I don't want a white picked fence, or paint fences – he wasn't seeking a perfect nest (he ended up building me four houses) 2. You will NEVER wear flannel to bed, that's a case for divorce (we still sleep naked after 17 years ) 3. If you are mad at me, you have to go to bed naked (he was very right) The bottom line is we've lived by a simple formula; Do you feel safe, valuable and loved? I've come to realize if you violate any of these three pillars, you will have difficult emotional times. If you honor them, the journey will be incredible. In love, it's possible to have your cake and eat it too. – -Nancy Houle Gratefully married to the same awesome guy since 1995 Business partners since 1993
Tell us: What makes your man a ROCK STAR husband?