I’ve interviewed my fair share of celebrities. Some of them were as vacuous and anal retentive as the characters they’ve played. I’ve waited on line with some and ferociously barked out questions as we stood and watched their child get face painted (that celebrity who will remain nameless was one of the ONLY Q&A’s I never submitted for publication because her answers were just so ridiculously curt and plain NOT interesting–but I DIGRESS).
I’ve run down flights of stairs with some and crammed into elevators with others just to get that one fabulous sound bite. For the most part 90 percent of these celebrities have ONLY spoken to me with their publicist present. But the only celebrity couple I’ve always really hoped I’d have the chance to talk to was Chris Pratt and Anna Faris. To me they seemed to be the modern day Lucy and Ricky- minus the boozing and womanizing the latter was notorious for engaging in! In fact when I recently watched their playful interactions on an episode of Faris’ sitcom “MOM” I genuinely thought they were destined for the long run. That they were the celebrity couple who would beat the odds when it came to the inevitable Hollywood marital demise– it seemed that they had found a happy medium and each was a bonafide star in their genre. But I think like so many celebrity marriages we all want to believe in their love because it helps us perpetuate the belief in that elusive happily ever after.
Normally when celebrities discuss the nuts and bolts of keeping their relationship intact, I’m the last person who believes that their advice holds any weight or genuine appeal to the average woman like me. In fact I laughed when the ladies of the View grilled Meryl Streep for her secret to her long lasting marriage. As Streep, sat slightly dumbfounded for several seconds at a loss for what to say she finally admitted that she had no secrets rather just a lot of good people helping her throughout the years to raise her kids…all of which alleviated one more pressure off her. Whereas most of us regular folk are doing it all…raising our kids, trying to work on our marriages with little to no outside help i.e. someone to bathe our kids so perhaps we can get in more quality one on one time with our spouses without a little person asking for slices of apple, peeled with no skin again the nerve of those kids needing food!
Why do I think Meryl Streep had no secrets for married people on keeping their marriages fresh and long lasting? Because I think so many of these celeb couples are driven and manufactured by their publicists to trump up buzz for their latest film project or reality TV show. I GUESS you could call me jaded but with the demise of so many high profile celeb marriages whose couples earnestly espoused their love and devotion to their union think BENNIFER and BRANGELINA and the scandals which rocked those unions which were deemed good and solid perhaps I am questioning the authenticity of ninety percent of the celeb marriages currently on the divorce chopping block.
And then there are those couples who while they never legally tied the knot, seemed destined to weather all the usual celebrity marriage pitfalls, Like Johnny Depp and his baby mama Vanessa Paradis. Namely staying out of the paparazzi spotlight and far from the glare of Hollywood and its insidious way of taking two committed people and shattering their union via some sex fueled scandal. Or maybe what it really all boils down to is some very honest statements made by Vanessa Paradis, who opened up about her estrangement from Jonny Depp. Perhaps being in Hollywood, or Wichita or Minneapolis has no bearing on a marriage and its ability to sustain itself. Perhaps the viability of a relationship all comes down to the participants level of commitment to said union.
Vanessa Paradis recently opened up to French Elle just enough to hint about her feelings after ending a 14-year relationship with the 49-year-old star.
“I don’t have the recipe for happiness, but I think the engine is simply having the desire,” she says. “It’s not feeling obliged or forced or repeating yourself.”
“I hate, for example, whenever you hear someone say: ‘You have work at being a couple,'” she continues. “No, you have to want to be there.”
Perhaps none of us TRULY knows what goes behind the closed doors of a marriage– and how celebrity and time spent apart can ultimately wreak havoc on a couple’s intimacy. All I know is that the dissolution of this celebrity marriage just makes me plain sad.