I am one of MANY women who read this week’s NY Times Vows section, which essentially details a couple who found each other, while both were still married– and yet their undeniable attraction for each other could not be contained. Although they say, they never engaged in a physical relationship with each other while they were still married- after much consternation and internal examination on both of their parts, they decided to leave their respective spouses and get married.
They both admitted they had regrets about having to hurt their spouses, but pose an interesting dilemma; one that has stirred up some major controversy…(especially the fact that they’ve posted their love story in a major way, almost as a way to validate their unholiest of unions).
Here’s the situation: You’re married, you have kids and then, like a bolt of lightning, you are TRANSFIXED by another adult (who just so happens to be the parent of a kid in your child’s preschool class).
As a couple you and your spouse and this adult and his spouse begin to socialize and you both admit you begin to have forbidden feelings for one another. What do you do? Do you act on them? Do you see them as temptation and as such ignore them?
Maybe your marriage isn’t so perfect, perhaps your spouse isn’t everything you would hope for– and this new person seems so dynamic, the infatuation is full blown, you find yourself waiting for pre-school pickup just to get a glimpse of this person.. What do you do, how do you handle it?
Do you hang in there? And if you don’t hang in there… do you make it as public as this couple did? Is this couple saying; the world be dammed- our kids be dammed?