I was recently asked to be a guest on a live panel to discuss the impact a person’s debt can have on their potential mate and whether it was a contributing factor in the latest growing trend of young people putting off marriage until they are completely debt free.
Of course writing a blog like Married My Sugar Daddy, I’m convinced most of the panelists assumed I was a kept woman, who was happy to get an allowance from my husband. Well the truth is – when I married my husband at 25 years old – we both came into the marriage debt free and although he did pick up the tab for our wedding (and to this day I ADORE him for doing so) it was always my intention to work (although I briefly had visions of being a lady who lunched, shopped and flirted with the gardener). I’m not going to lie and say his age and stability was not a factor in my decision to marry him – but it was just one of a thousand things I loved about him.
Still, once I got pregnant and took a bit of a hiatus from pursuing my career — my husband definitely had more control over our finances. While I didn’t necessarily get an allowance – I do feel like I was much more inclined to report to him regarding what, where and how I spent our money. I also know that now that I am working full time – I’d never want to consider going back to that arrangement. And I also believe that because my husband and I have always been on the same page about how we viewed money, he rarely asked me anything more than “How much do you need?”
So, in regard to wives getting an allowance; my opinion is as long as the arrangement works for both and it’s not so much an allowance as the agreed upon amount that partners feel should be spent during a certain time period – then I’m okay with it.
But what about you? What do you have to say about this issue of wives getting allowance from their husbands?