Way way back many centuries ago not long after the bible began there were these two women who penned a book called THE RULES. Okay so it wasn't quite around the time that Moses partied the red Sea, it was about 20 something years ago. To be even more specific it was around the time that I was smack dab in the dating trenches.
These rules about dating, if I remember correctly were basically akin to playing the rules of a game. For me these rules made one thing clear- dating was a game and in order to be successful at said game I would need to learn these rules and never ever forget to take them into consideration- especially if I met a guy I actually wanted to be with. Not playing by these rules was akin to suicide- it meant you were a girl who would never grab that Tiffany cut engagement ring and reel in your husband.
I'll be honest I really tried hard to play by those rules- and lucky for me back then there was no google, no facebook, no texting so my obsessive personality, aka my need to know everything about the guy I liked like his whereabouts- specifically when he said he couldn't go out with me on a Saturday night- well back then I just had to trust in him. There was no way I could catch him on instagram posing in a lovey dovey selfie with another woman, or read his facebook status update.
But dating in 2014- well there is NO where to hide. You can have immediate access, immediate gratification, or immediate pain. You can message that guy on facebook and you can TELL if he's read it but CHOSE not to answer it. So just what are the rules in this brave new dating world? Well the Rules ladies are back and there are saying – THE RULES and the game of dating is still alive- and shows no chance of waning. In other words if you want to be successful at meeting your love match you must PLAY BY THEIR RULES.
According to these RULES Ladies Dating has been going on for centuries; when a guy sees a girl- he knows who he wants to go out with.End of story. Let the guy take the lead and follow these rules:
#1 Don't overshare on the first date and always end the date first. In other words you don't need to tell him that your high school boyfriend dumped you for your best friend, that your mother chugs Xanax and that you think you might have a daddy complex because your father was an absentee dad. keep it easy and breezy. You can tell him later on one day-all about your crazy family- when you are married.
#2 Wait as long as you can before sleeping with a guy- the longer you hold out the better. this is about boundaries and self respect. If a GUY LIKES YOU LET him approach you and let him ask you out on a date.
#3 Have one date a week for six weeks. If a guy knows he can get you in a minute he won't respect you. If you do sleep with him on the first date you walk out the door and act cool about it.
#4 Wait at least four hours to text a guy when you start dating. If a guy texts you- you wait to respond because you have a life. Don't be so available. Don't play hard to get–Be Hard to get.
So are these rules just plain RIDICULOUS or in relationships do we still need to play games?