Four Things I’ve Learned About Life from my Birthday Boy -a love letter to my son.
When I was a little girl I remember telling anyone who would ask me the question, “How many kids do you want when you get older?” AT LEAST FOUR. Of course I never anticipated that the actual act of getting pregnant for a second time would be so arduous.
I feel grateful for my gem of a son, my little fighter who survived in my womb when his twin simply vanished at 11 weeks, on so many levels.
At this precious age of 15 these 15 years which have seemed to whiz by- I’ve learned so much about myself and yes about boys and about the capacity of my heart to stretch in ways that never cease to shock me.
Four Things I’ve Learned About Life from my Birthday Boy
#1 The act of dunking a nerf Basketball into a hamper- is NOT AS EASY AS IT LOOKS.
My son can and has spent hours upon hours perfecting his dunking shot, hours that I’ve been instructed by him to carefully watch his every move, and I can say with all certainty the shot requires skill and precision and my boy has demonstrated such patience in trying to help his dear mom get that shot just right.
#2 Gender truly has no bearing on who we innately are.
My son has squashed every stereotype I believed about boys. I watched him gently cradle our 16 year old Shih Tzu Mellie before her death with so much compassion I could barely keep from weeping. And the way he dotes on these fur creatures with whom we share our lives touches me at my very core.
#3 Life’s simple pleasures are everything.
Jackson needs so little, actually next to nothing, to keep him entertained and content. A game of hangman on an errant piece of scrap paper can elicit such joy from him, he has me convinced HANGMAN might be the answer to solving world peace.
#4 The present is all we have.
I know I can’t hold onto him forever, even though I want to freeze him in this very moment, and never let him grow up and explore and travel and fall in love with someone else. Of course I want those things for him, but the selfish part of me wants all his love directed at me– and so for now- while I still have it- I will marinate in it- I will let it wash over me and I will cherish it.
… He can school even his dad on investing
…he can GUT me with his ability to compose the music and lyrics to songs
…He is the ONLY boy who has ever been able to get me to play basketball
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If not for this kid I would never get off my computer—thank you for reminding me that life happens when you put down your phone ? and sweat ? i hope he never leaves me because WHO WILL FORCE ME TO GO TO THE GYM and get me to agree to a pic with #nomakeup ? . . . #nofilter #boymom #momofboys #boymomlife
…He Can MELT my heart with a box of half eatern chocolates
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I just got home from the gym -a little sad that my girl is in Spain ?? and then my little #valentine surprised me with this half eaten by him box of candy ? and well he melted my heart ❤️ . . . . #thehappynow #thesemoments #nothingisordinary #lovelysquares #itsthelittlethings #cherisheverymoment #our_everyday_moments #momlife #thatsdarling #livethelittlethings #literalmomgoals #momlife #momlifebelike