Having been inducted into part of parenthood that had me most terrified- raising a teenager– I can say with all certainty that it is a lesson in patience, knowing where your mute button is and learning how to exercise it at just the right moments and truly being available- at the most inopportune moments.
What I'm learning about parenting a teenager is this– you need to be able to give your teen the space to work out their own issues- but be there to lend a supportive ear wen they just want to vent.
AND NEVER OFFER UNSOLICITED ADVICE, or find a way to offer advice, that doesn't seem like it is advice- rather just part of the organic conversation you and your teen are partaking in at that precise moment.
Parenting a teen is a delicate balance of listening without judgement while ever so gently reminding your kid that YOU ARE THE PARENT but you completely respect them and want them to exercise their independence- under your parenting guidance.
In other words it is a process and I think each day is another lesson in getting it right. I truly try my best NOT to pry ( or to seem as though I am not prying) and allow my daughter the space she needs-while I try to get as much intel as I can.
A few years ago she my teen drafted a A Summer Bucket List of Adventures. I thought- oh how cute and crafty! What a great idea- and something I can do with my now teen son too.
If you need some inspiration for your Summer Bucket List of Adventures– here are a few! Feel free to borrow some and/or all!
#1 Walk from Madi's House to Ronit's house ( i.e. go on a very long walk with a destination in mind)
#2 Walk from Ronit's House to the Mall.
#3 Have a Campfire with S'mores.
#4 Go to Hershey Park. ( CHOCOLATE!– need I say more)
#5 Make Starbucks FRAPPS by myself.
#6 Take Tumblr Pictures at the beach.
#7 Get a Henna Tattoo.
#8 Get a SUN Tattoo.
#9 Drink Herbert's Lemonade.
#10 Ride PennyBoard to the Mall and in the Mall.
#11 Buy Tumblr clothes.
#12 Get Galaxy Vans.
#13 Learn how to surf.
#14 Have a Netflix Marathon.
#15 Go to SIX FLAGS.
#16 Drink Coconut Milk
#17 Get ABS.
#18 Have a Birthday Party for someone.
#19 Do blindfolded makeup challenge.
#20 Pass the Deep Water Test.
#21 Explore the City.
#22 Take the Baby Food Challenge.
#23 Clean a Carpet.
#24 Make a Youtube Channel (Maybe)
#25 Go Swimming in clothes.
#26 Meet friends at the Mall. (Friday)
#27 SCREAM PUMA in Mall.
#28 Run around the whole Mall.