You were so sure this guy liked you, but now it seems he’s just ignoring you.
Was there something you missed? Perhaps you only saw the signs you wanted to and misinterpreted his reactions, smiles and body language? Well if he hasn’t called you for date number two, short of having been deported from the country or by some stroke of bad luck laid up in a hospital bed, he’s probably just not that into you. So really how can you tell if a guy really digs you?
Lindsey Isham who up until her marriage was a self-described 31- year old virgin and author of No Sex in the City: One Virgin’s Confessions of Love, Lust, Dating and Waiting believes her abstinence helped her become especially astute at understanding men.
Isham feels her abstinence has also given her a sense of clarity when it comes to men and reading their actions, both spoken and unspoken and therefore offers these three surefire ways a woman can tell if a guy is into her.
“Women over analyze everything (I know because I am the same way), but we usually miss the fact that guys and girls communicate differently,” says Ms. Isham. “We have an idea of what it looks like when a guy likes us, but guys usually show it in different ways. So, based on my interviews with men over the years, these three things are the basic standards for how to tell if a guy is into you.”
#1 HE WILL TALK TO YOU AND LISTEN TO YOU.
On average, guys don’t like talking as much as girls do. So if a guy strikes up a conversation with you out of the blue, this is the first hint that he is interested in you. (However, after talking with you he could change his mind but that is a whole other issue!) If you talk to a guy and later he remembers nothing that you said, take the hint that he is NOT into you. If you were important to him, he would think what you say and feel are important enough to remember.
#2 HE WILL INVITE YOU TO PLACES TO HANG OUT WITH YOU.
If a guy asks you to come to his house for a bbq, he could be playing it safe (checking you out before he asks you out), or he could just think you are really cool. Either way, he is making a statement that he likes being around you only time will tell if there is something more to it!
#3 HE WILL PUT YOUR NEEDS BEFORE HIS OWN.
If a guy is into you, he will pay attention to the things that make you laugh and make you smile. He will be aware when it’s cold or when you’re wearing heels and have walked a long distance. Some guys are just naturally gentleman-like, but for the most part, when you see them going out of their way to be nice, help you, etc. don’t just assume they want to just be friends. Remember, guys don’t hang out with girls to be nice. They don’t feel obligated to include people like women do. If they think you are fun, pretty or both, they will ask you to do something with them, plain and simple. The bottom line is this: If a guy is interested in you he will pursue you, if he’s not, then move on! Who wants to be with a guy that tolerates you instead of adores you!?