I have several friends who are single parents and I honestly don’t think there is a more challenging job on the planet.
I am amazed at the sheer resilience of my friends who work full-time jobs, rush to get their kids from the baby sitter and then, “single-handedly” juggle dinner, homework, baths, millions of inquisitive questions without another adult to play pass the kid with or to comfort them if they lose it and scream. I’m not a single parentâ€”but if I was I think I’d need a Starbuck’s IV drip just to stay in the game and manage all aspects of my kids and their ever increasing needs (and demands). I’m in awe of single parents, who not only bring home the bacon but also do homework, cook dinners, get their kids to extra-curricular activities- and after all that work are still standing!
While my husband is off at his Chandler-esque job (I phrase it as such because just like the character Chandler on Friends- I’m not quite sure what the hell he does) I am left holding the ballâ€”no manny /or nanny at my disposal and two kids who have not yet mastered the fine art of fixing me an evening cocktail. I have to be honest I am tired and want to get off this chore treadmill… and it’s only be 48 hours. I have a completely newfound respect for single mothers, who manage to make this balancing act look doable and even bearable.
While I had visions of stretching out in my queen sized bedâ€”by one am I had two kids in my bed- and a Shih Tzu sleeping on my head. And I’m missing my husband… and his ability to get the kids up, and out of the house within an hour. With this 48-hour absence I’ve realized that he is truly the ying to my yang, he’s the one who walks the dog in the frigid temps, so lovingly takes out the trash- and always has the coffee ready. Sure he is in bed by 8pm, with the covers pulled u to his chin-but that’s for another post. And this morning when my nine year old remarked, “you don’t do morning as good as daddy, and I think you need to practice more.” And then when my son chimed in with, “I want pancakes for breakfast tomorrow mommy, I know you can’t make them like Daddy, but maybe you can try?!” I realized that I need to go out and get a box of Hungry Jack pancake mix…