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Lessons I’ve learned from my Shih Tzus

September 17, 2019 by Melissa Chapman 17 Comments

As I sit here about to type this post, Lessons I’ve learned from my Shih Tzus I can feel Lazer’s hot breath on my leg. 

Lazer has been my constant companion on a daily basis since my dad passed away eight years ago. And to be fair ( Ike who we rescued four years ago and is Lazer’s forever shadow) is also heavily breathing on my other leg. 

Lessons I've learned from my Shih Tzus

When we adopted Lazer he was two and half and from the day we brought him home he has laid next to me on mornings when getting out of bed felt impossible.

 

And whenever the opportunity presents itself, he licks my face and tries to get in the nook of my arm or leg, just to be as close to me as he possibly can.

My 12 pound 9 year old Shih Tzu who I named Lazer (yes after my father Z’l whose Hebrew name was Eliezer) is as much a part of the fabric of my life as anything and anyone else. And not to leave out my Rescue Shih tzu Ike ( who is still very much a puppy) who is also inextricably interwoven into the fabric of my life.

Lessons I've learned from my Shih Tzus

Lessons I’ve learned from my Shih Tzus

Lessons I've learned from my Shih Tzus

So why does it seem like I am favoring Lazer? I’m not! It’s just that his life, and especially his old age, feels so parallel to that of my father. And I swear I feel like I see my father’s face in Lazer’s ( And yes–I know it sounds crazy!)

As my father’s illness progressed, he required so much more help but- he was a tough one; fiercely independent and adamant about doing whatever he could, on his own.

Lessons I've learned from my Shih Tzus

My Shih Tzus Have Taught me about Determination

Did I mention that Lazer who has problems jumping will attempt a jump from the floor to the couch at least 10 times, until he finally makes it? Like my dad he’s got this spunky quality about him.

And Like my dad, as he has aged Lazer too has slowed down considerably. Yet there are times when he will summon up that puppy exuberance and in those moments he wins my heart all over again.

Lessons I've learned from my Shih Tzus

Sure there are some who think I have gone absolutely mad. I have, in the past couple of years, organized our lives around this little 12 pounder-( and our other rescue Ike who is till very much a puppy at a little over four years old) who I can’t leave in the care of anyone other than my husband.

So yes it’s true I *might have* given up a few trips to exotic locales recently because I couldn’t find suitable accommodations for our boys- but the way I see it- they are my priority.

Lessons I've learned from my Shih Tzus

I feel as strongly responsible and in love with my my dogs as I do my two legged fairly hairless kids. I made a vow when I rescued them years ago that I’d protect and love them.

And sure I don’t relish not being able to jet to Paris, but by the same token these are just small sacrifices compared to the unconditional love they have given me all these years-all the while never asking for anything in return other than just a warm body to snuggle up to.

Of course some people view my devotion to them as slightly insane, and they wonder, how could I be so utterly connected to an animal?

Lessons I've learned from my Shih Tzus

My Shih Tzus remind me to seek out the essence of other beings

But the thing is, when I look at Lazer all I see is love.  I see his spirit and it is so very reminiscent of the way I felt about my dad. Sure towards the end of his life his body may have betrayed him- but my father’s personality and the very essence of who he was, was still utterly intact.

I see my Lazer in the same way; yes he needs more care now- but his spirit and that love, it’s all still so very present.

I hope in some small way- my kids are gleaning some lessons about life, love and responsibility through the relationship and commitment we honor with our Lazer and Ike and that all life deserves to be honored and cherished.

My Shih Tzus have taught me about how Our time is limited 

I also know my time with both of my rescues is limited. and so each day I spend with them I remind myself is a gift- and of course their love is a gift that continually gives, without any conditions.

Lessons I’ve learned from my Shih Tzus

With all that being said these 10 PET COMMANDMENTS  feel very sacred to me.

1. My life is likely to last 10-15 years. Any separation from you is likely to be painful.

2. Give me time to understand what you want of me.

3. Place your trust in me. It is crucial for my well-being.

4. Don’t be angry with me for long and don’t lock me up as punishment. You have your work, your friends, your entertainment, but I have only you.

5. Talk to me. Even if I don’t understand your words, I do understand your voice when speaking to me.

6. Be aware that however, you treat me, I will never forget it.

7. Before you hit me, before you strike me, remember that I could hurt you, and yet, I choose not to bite you.

8. Before you scold me for being lazy or uncooperative, ask yourself if something might be bothering me. Perhaps I’m not getting the right food, I have been in the sun too long, or my heart might be getting old or weak.

9. Please take care of me when I grow old. You too, will grow old.

10. On the ultimate difficult journey, go with me please. Never say you can’t bear to watch. Don’t make me face this alone. Everything is easier for me if you are there, because I love you so.

Lessons I've learned from my Shih Tzus

When it comes to Lessons I’ve learned from my Shih Tzus … bottom line Life is better with them in it!

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  1. Kristine Nicole Alessandra says

    September 17, 2019 at 12:26 am

    Dogs are the best friends anyone can ever have. They are loyal and very caring. We may not speak the same language but I know they understand. My dog always lays beside my feet when I am having a bad day and starts licking my toes when I am not feeling well.

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  2. Swathi says

    September 17, 2019 at 4:01 am

    Both are really cute, sorry about your dad. I too lost my dad last december. I know how you feel. Your shih-tzus turned to be great friends in need.

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  3. Catalina says

    September 17, 2019 at 6:53 am

    Such a beautiful post! I love those 10 pet commandments. Everyone needs to follow them!

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  4. Beth says

    September 17, 2019 at 7:09 am

    I’m so sorry about your dad. Just like you, I am a firm believer that pets are family. I really enjoyed getting to know a little more about your dogs.

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  5. Susan Mann says

    September 17, 2019 at 7:14 am

    Such a lovely post. I love seeing photos of your dogs, they are so cute. My Mum has recently got one of these he’s a little hairier as Scotland is much cooler. So many wonderful lessons you can learn from dogs xx

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  6. Amber Myers says

    September 17, 2019 at 7:16 am

    Aw, you have some cute doggies. I like these lessons. My cats have taught me some too. Mostly, “Do not touch unless I allow it or I’ll bite,” ha.

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  7. Ashley says

    September 17, 2019 at 7:20 am

    Our pets teach us so much! I’m so thankful for our fur babies

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  8. Heather says

    September 17, 2019 at 7:23 am

    It sounds like you really love your dog. I feel the same way about my cat. I like its name too!

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  9. Ashley says

    September 17, 2019 at 7:34 am

    What a sweet post! And those faces! Your pups are absolutely adorable, and I can tell they are well loved.

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  10. Pam says

    September 17, 2019 at 7:36 am

    You can learn so much from your pets. Dogs are really amazing creatures, they change so many lives.

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  11. Sarah Bailey says

    September 17, 2019 at 7:38 am

    Oh my goodness your dogs are adorable! I have to admit it is amazing the things we can learn from our pets isn’t it? They really have so much to offer to us.

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  12. Ruth I says

    September 17, 2019 at 9:08 am

    This is the sweetest! It’s amazing how we can be really close with our pets and learn a lot from them.

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  13. Alli Smith says

    September 17, 2019 at 12:17 pm

    Oh, what sweet words! Your dogs are so pretty and I can tell that you treat them the way they should be treated – with much love and companionship. Beautiful!

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  14. Lynndee says

    September 17, 2019 at 1:24 pm

    Pets teach us a lot of things. They’re just like kids. 🙂 Your shi tzus are adorable. Look at those sweet faces.

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  15. Sue Reddel says

    September 17, 2019 at 2:10 pm

    We can learn so much about ourselves from our pets. Your pet commandments are spot on.

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  16. Annemarie LeBlanc says

    September 17, 2019 at 2:36 pm

    I have a Shih Tzu too. His name is Bite and he turned 6 last Valentine’s day. He is not the type that wants to cuddle. Just a little belly rub and he’s fine with that. He loves my husband and they are like father and son. I will have to save a copy of that 10 Pet Commandments.

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  17. Heather says

    September 17, 2019 at 3:30 pm

    They are such smart pups. And so cute as well! Can’t we all learn something from our fur babies?

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