Every year when my birthday rolls around my husband says to me ” WHAT DO YOU WANT?” Of course he asks this knowing full well that I will reply with ” I don’t need anything.” That’s our little birthday/gift dance which we do each year. So this year when he inevitably asked the question I said, ” I want you to write me a LIST of 44 reasons why you love me for my birthday”. He looked at me like I just asked him to write a thesis on Dialysis Treatment. ( in a former life he was a nephrologist but that’s a post for another time.) We finally agreed that he could at least think of 10 reasons why he loves me -especially if this was the only birthday present he had to come up with other than a tiny Carvel Cake)
So without further ado I am handing over this post to my sugar daddy ( who is NOT REALLY my sugar daddy and yes I turned down the offer to speak at a recent sugar baby conference because my philosophy is- NOTHING IS FREE. Even if you marry a sugar daddy you will get his money on his conditions- and if you marry for money the marriage will be short because money is never a sure thing) but I digress… here are the reasons why after 18 years of marriage ( together for 21) a man like him loves a woman like me!
#1 You always say ” We will always be together no matter what” and that makes me feel great.
Me- really you think husbands need that kind of validation?
The sugar daddy: “It’s always nice to hear it verbalized”.
#2 ” I love that our kids love to be with you and you spoil them”
Me: But you are always yelling at me that I spoil them too much?!
The sugar Daddy: “Somebody has to play the bad cop to your good cop”.
#3 ” I love that you have a soft spot for animals and people in need”
Me: “But you are always yelling at me that I volunteer too much and that I never say no”
The Sugar daddy: “It still shows your good heart”.
#4 ” I love that material things don’t mean that much to you”
Me: ” I know you do- you especially love that you ask me what I want for my birthday and tell me you want to get me anything i want because you know that all you need to get me is a card-in fact this year you don’t even need to get me a card!”
#5 ” I love that you love to groom me”
Me: “Well someone has to!”
The sugar daddy: ” You spoil me too!”
#6 ” I love that you put my needs before your own.”
Me: ” tell me more about how wonderful I am”
The Sugar daddy: ” I think a lot of wives would not have been as understanding about their spouse’s decision to end their career as a physician. I’m not saying it’s been perfect but you have never wavered in your support for me and have always reminded me that my happiness is your happiness.”
#7 ” I love that you put up with me being a grouch sometimes.”
Me: ” You certainly have your curmudgeon days although after all these years together I have to say I’m starting to see the world as you do!”
The Sugar Daddy: ” It’s only taken 21 years!”
#8 ” I love that you are the ying to my yang”
Me: ” I need clarification.”
The Sugar Daddy: ” Example when it comes to the kids wanting things I would probably be tougher but I know in the end I know that it is great giving them things that might’ve seemed extra but ultimately enriches their lives”.
#9 ” I love that you make my life fun.”
Me: ” So does that mean I’m a clown here to amuse you?!”
The sugar daddy: ” I love that you let me practice my seventies disco moves with you and that we always laugh together”.
#10 ” I love that you support me and stick up for me any chance you have ever gotten”
Me: “Well you are my best friend-it just comes naturally. WAIT I FEEL LIKE THIS HAS NOW BECOME A LOVE LETTER TO YOU!”
The sugar daddy: “Happy birthday I love you.”
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I absolutely ADORE this. You guys are the cutest couple and I love how much you guys love each other!!
You guys make a really beautiful couple and I really enjoyed reading his answers!!! And your responses LOL! I don’t think there’s such thing as perfection when it comes to relationships as lord knows it can be hard but when you find someone who is worth it, the rest doesn’t seem to matter
Aren’t these the sweetest things! I just love it when husbands reassure us that we’re doing a great job being their wives! Happy Birthday to you!
This is super sweet and I love it. I love how you did it like an interview. That made it unique and fun!
What a fun interview and sweet. Who wouldn’t love a list of things that are loved about them? I know I would!
Happy Birthday! I love your blog and dont visit enough… I saw Stacie post this on her FB page and hope your day was as nice as you are.
That’s the sweetest and I think that’s also why your marriage lasts, you appreciate each other so much. I hope you had a wonderful birthday!
I love that you disagree with him on why he loves you. Lol. This is a nice idea, every couple should try it out occasionally. I hope you enjoyed your birthday!
This is so sweet! I love the idea too and I am going to borrow it for my next birthday and see what my husband comes up with,
This is so sweet! I feel like every spouse should do something similar for their birthdays. I don’t think we say it enough and it’s implied yes, but not always spoken
I loved reading his answers! Y’all are just too cute together. I hope that you had a great birthday!
Love this! It’s sweet and kind and definitely from the heart!! I’d like to do this with my hubby sometime.
I love this! How sweet, and loving. I think its wonderful, and think more need to do stuff like this in a marriage. Great answers!
Aww this is so cute. what a sweet lovely post. I need to get my hubby to do this to me. xx
Love the little banter in between. It’s obvious how much you love each other and know each other. Happy Bday.
What a fun post and great birthday gift. It’s nice to see how much your husband loves you and how much he appreciates all you do.
This is an awesome post! I think it is so sweet! Sounds like you two really have an awesome marriage.
Awww, this really sweet! My husband and I wrote something like this to each other a few years ago. It is always good for couples to remind the good things they love about each other.
aww what a lovely post! and I think a great birthday present, I hope my husband and I are together that long and I can bug him for a lot more years :p
That is such a cute interview. What a fun relationship you all have and you are right…there has to be a good cop/bad cop.
AWw this is so sweet. I love hearing it from the guys perspective too. Love to see what a great relationship you guys have!
It’s so nice to see the things that men appreciate in a marriage. My husband also surprises me with the reasons he gives for loving me all these years. Here I thought it was just physical attraction but apparently, there are more reasons. LOL
I absolutely love how you narrated this to be more of a conversation than just a list! Happy birthday to you!
You guys are the perfect couple, so sweet. I loved reading this post, more of a conversation!!