Every year when my birthday rolls around my husband says to me ” WHAT DO YOU WANT?” Of course he asks this knowing full well that I will reply with ” I don't need anything.” That's our little birthday/gift dance which we do each year. So this year when he inevitably asked the question I said, ” I want you to write me a LIST of 44 reasons why you love me for my birthday”. He looked at me like I just asked him to write a thesis on Dialysis Treatment. ( in a former life he was a nephrologist but that's a post for another time.) We finally agreed that he could at least think of 10 reasons why he loves me -especially if this was the only birthday present he had to come up with other than a tiny Carvel Cake)
So without further ado I am handing over this post to my sugar daddy ( who is NOT REALLY my sugar daddy and yes I turned down the offer to speak at a recent sugar baby conference because my philosophy is- NOTHING IS FREE. Even if you marry a sugar daddy you will get his money on his conditions- and if you marry for money the marriage will be short because money is never a sure thing) but I digress… here are the reasons why after 18 years of marriage ( together for 21) a man like him loves a woman like me!
#1 You always say ” We will always be together no matter what” and that makes me feel great.
Me- really you think husbands need that kind of validation?
The sugar daddy: “It's always nice to hear it verbalized”.
#2 ” I love that our kids love to be with you and you spoil them”
Me: But you are always yelling at me that I spoil them too much?!
The sugar Daddy: “Somebody has to play the bad cop to your good cop”.
#3 ” I love that you have a soft spot for animals and people in need”
Me: “But you are always yelling at me that I volunteer too much and that I never say no”
The Sugar daddy: “It still shows your good heart”.
#4 ” I love that material things don't mean that much to you”
Me: ” I know you do- you especially love that you ask me what I want for my birthday and tell me you want to get me anything i want because you know that all you need to get me is a card-in fact this year you don't even need to get me a card!”
#5 ” I love that you love to groom me”
Me: “Well someone has to!”
The sugar daddy: ” You spoil me too!”
#6 ” I love that you put my needs before your own.”
Me: ” tell me more about how wonderful I am”
The Sugar daddy: ” I think a lot of wives would not have been as understanding about their spouse's decision to end their career as a physician. I'm not saying it's been perfect but you have never wavered in your support for me and have always reminded me that my happiness is your happiness.”
#7 ” I love that you put up with me being a grouch sometimes.”
Me: ” You certainly have your curmudgeon days although after all these years together I have to say I'm starting to see the world as you do!”
The Sugar Daddy: ” It's only taken 21 years!”
#8 ” I love that you are the ying to my yang”
Me: ” I need clarification.”
The Sugar Daddy: ” Example when it comes to the kids wanting things I would probably be tougher but I know in the end I know that it is great giving them things that might've seemed extra but ultimately enriches their lives”.
#9 ” I love that you make my life fun.”
Me: ” So does that mean I'm a clown here to amuse you?!”
The sugar daddy: ” I love that you let me practice my seventies disco moves with you and that we always laugh together”.
#10 ” I love that you support me and stick up for me any chance you have ever gotten”
Me: “Well you are my best friend-it just comes naturally. WAIT I FEEL LIKE THIS HAS NOW BECOME A LOVE LETTER TO YOU!”
The sugar daddy: “Happy birthday I love you.”