I’m not a big fan of E! online reality shows and never watched former Playboy playmate Kendra Wilkinson’s exploits with Hugh Hefner. But I cannot help but be sucked into her current baby/marriage drama which involved her husband’s reported affair and recent reports that despite his indiscretions while she was carrying his child in her womb- she has plans to stay in her marriage for the sake of her children.
Of course I don’t think anyone can judge the decision a couple makes when it comes to their relationship and their children- but I wonder if it is ever a good idea for parents to stay together for the sake of their kids.
Some back ground here: The couple’s five-year union was rocked by scandal in June, when a model came forward and revealed she and Kendra’s Husband Hank Basket had engaged in sexual contact together in April, when Wilkinson was eight-months pregnant with their daughter. I do know , for me personally, getting that kind of information about my husband would have me questioning everything. I also know that having two kids with my husband is a game changer in every sense of the word.
Of course I wanted to get a professional to weigh in– and Dr. Barbara Greenberg, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist shares her three reasons why it is NOT a good idea for parents to stay together for the sake of their kids
Here is my two cents: If you’re not happy together- kids can sense it and kids will also not be happy. Sure you can put on a brave face, but kids can sense an underlying subtext of anger and sadness and pain. What about the old saying; don’t kids do better in a two parent household? My thoughts are kids will be MORE unhappy living with parents who are miserable and fighting- which will no doubt happen. More importantly- as a person, you the parent won’t be happy. If you can find it in your heart to forgive and forget that is one thing- but how many of us could be capable of that, when put in a position such as this one? It would be a HURCULEAN TASK for anyone to be able to forgive such a transgression- and being in an unhappy marriage will ultimately take its toll.