It is with hearts full of sadness that we have decided to separate. We have been working hard for well over a year, some of it together, some of it separated, to see what might have been possible between us, and we have come to the conclusion that while we love each other very much we will remain separate. We are, however, and always will be a family, and in many ways we are closer than we have ever been. We are parents first and foremost, to two incredibly wonderful children and we ask for their and our space and privacy to be respected at this difficult time. We have always conducted our relationship privately, and we hope that as we consciously uncouple and coparent, we will be able to continue in the same manner.
Gwyneth & Chris”
And while I am not Paltrow's Number one fan nor do I subscribe to a lot of the advice she dishes out I am impressed by her ability to take such an acrimonious situation and attempt to keep it civilized. I cannot imagine what it would be like to have to separate from your spouse when there are kids involved. Kids whose precious psyches and stabilities that you have spent your entire life helping to shape and mold. And yet there is such backlash against their decision to attempt to separate.
Perhaps her term consciously uncoupling can be construed as an opportunity for all of us to rethink our Happily Ever After till death do we part fairytale ending. With the rates of divorce showing no signs of waning – perhaps we need to see this unconscious uncoupling as an opportunity to look at relationships in a new light. Maybe our biology and psychology are not set up to be with one person for so many decades– and conscious uncoupling is simply a more civilized and less nasty way of admitting that we are not destined to stay with one person for many decades. The bottom line too is that divorce sucks and unless you're in it, you really can't judge and I have to admire her for trying to do this in an evolved way.
Of course I don't think I ever could be THAT EVOLVED–could you?