I have many neuroses. Too many to jot down in this blog post- most unfounded but so steeped in guilt and so much a part of my character that I'd need years of out-patient behavior modification under the supervision of a trained professional to rid myself of them. And even then- after doing all that work- I still think I'd cling to many of my neuroses because wile I abhor them and how they undermine my confidence, they are familiar, they are a part of my life. My husband married me and I like to say, in doing so- he married my issues. And of course I married his issues. While the dream is to stay single until you can get to know yourself and comfortable in your own skin and be able to tap into your own well of confidence, that is not dependent on another- If I had waited to get married- I'd still be single today.
I think part of what makes a marriage work is the understanding that two individuals will come together, not fully actualized, but broken and hopefully they can lean on one another as they muddle through life to try and become better versions of themselves. That is what my husband has been for me- especially as I have tried to navigate through a series of ABHORRENT bosses, Toxic friendships and my love hate relationship with my bathroom scale and the gym. I hope that I have been as monumentally intrinsic to his happiness and well being as he has been to mine. I think that's what makes a spouse GREAT – the ability to build up and support their better half with as much unconditional rah-rah cheering as possible.For instance this morning I had to go to the doctor and I HATE going to the doctor. I hate getting my blood drawn. I hate that I am so weak in this area. I feel shame about it- I feel embarrassed that as a 45 year old woman I am still so consumed by this fear. And what i love about my husband is that he doesn't brow-beat me and tell me to buck up and just deal. He holds my hand and accompanies me to the doctor. NO QUESTIONS ASKED. For me, that small act of kindness on his part-speaks volumes about his love and commitment. Oh and he bakes and cooks- just because he knows it is not my thing and wants to feed me! In fact he just whipped up this Weight Watchers Oatmeal treats Recipe (Just three points per treat recipe makes 40 treats) and it is SO good I had to share it with you!
Weight Watchers Oatmeal treats Recipe (Just three points per treat recipe makes 40 treats)
1 1⁄4 tsp baking soda 0 Points
3 cup(s)uncooked rolled oats 26 Points
3⁄4cup(s)Splenda Brown sugar blend 39 Points
2 egg(s) 0 Points
1 cup Almond butter 47 Points
1tsp Vanilla extract 0 Points
Preheat the oven to 350 degrees
Put all the ingredients into a bowl and mix them up.
Roll mixture into forty balls.
Bake for 10 minutes or until golden brown.
Serving size is one treat- 3 points per treat.
So I am putting the call out there to you- LEAVE A COMMENT ON THIS BLOG post with ONE quality your spouse possesses which has you falling even more in love with them!