My husband is the polar opposite of me. He is extremely conservative, introverted and carefully measures every syllable that passes through his lips, as though the gravity of each word was worth its weight in gold. One of the reasons I fell in love with him was for these exact qualities- I think I yearned for a partner who would possess all that I did not, and would be an almost calming force for me. And my husband had been just that; this strong, yet incredibly soft and comforting shoulder for me to lean on, and yet after 18 years of marriage, his silence at times can also be infuriating as all hell.
As one might predict, the qualities one finds alluring at first, after 16 years–seem quite the opposite. That silence, I so craved from my partner, after 18 years is not always so golden. In other words–there are often times that I both want to and have looked him square in the jaw and screamed…can you please talk to me? But of course not only can his silence be deafening at those all important moments that I just need to hear someone else's voice fill the room with sound, but his silence insofar as the things he somehow “forgets to tell me” can also be downright maddening.
So for of all those wives out there who are suffering along with me, saddled with a forgetful and silent husband, here are the top four things my husband has innocently forgotten to tell me (being that he is a man of oh so few and choice words).
#1 I'm an organ donor.
One would think a MAJOR life decision such as donating one's organs might be a factoid a spouse would share with his wife. No not my husband. So how did I find out my husband is donating his organs to science in the event of his untimely death? I looked over his shoulder as he was opening his mail and reading a letter from the Department of Motor Vehicles which included his renewed license and that part about him being an organ donor. Of course I asked him why he didn't feel the need to share this information with me to which he responded- well they would've told you when I died.
#2 I visit naughty websites.
Yes this little factoid was only revealed to me after my computer caught a major virus and my husband confessed that he might have visited a website that potentially could have caused said virus.
#3 I hide dirty clothes so you won't wash them.
My husband accuses me of ruining clothes by washing them too often, so what he's taken to doing is hiding his clothes in the oddest of places so that I cannot wash them. Of course I always find them and wash them anyway!
#4 As a child my parents let us sweat it out in our bedrooms during the hot summers with no air conditioning. Oh this little fact from his childhood that slipped out provided a real framework for understanding my husband's behavior towards our kids, and explained why I had to literally put a gun to his head to install air conditioners in our kid's bedrooms.
So wives…what are some of the things your husbands have conveniently forgotten to tell you?
My husband was creeping at girls in bikinis on Instagram…until my 13 year old was sitting next to him and called him out on it. Then hubby sat there and unfollowed them all LOL.
My husband tells me everything, as far as I know. I mean, how could he not? We both work from home, and we’re practically on top of one another at all times. LOL
I am blissfully single and the more my friends complain about marriage the more steadfast I am about remaining single. I think everyone should share with their family that they are organ donors so there are no issues during what is already a very stressful moment for your loved ones.
Pretty sure my husband tell me everything, if he didn’t our son would rat him out. One thing he didn’t tell me is how much a pain in the butt his mom can be!
My husband doesn’t always tell me his schedule. I think he forgets about some things and then tries to say that he already told me that he had some event going on.
We had to work with secrets this year and it was a tough year. We’re just now getting back to our usual selves and I could not be happier. I think it’s really important to be open to your life partner.
My husband and I are completely open with each other and it’s what makes me trust him more. I think these are minor secrets but at least you’ve now uncovered them!
I love this! But I have to tell you, most of us husbands look at naughty sites on occasion. Or every half hour! Just kidding Madijack!
Secrets can be pretty destructive in most cases. I am glad your husband was honest with you.
I’m sure my husband tells me everything except where he is dining for lunch. I’ll usually say something like, let’s try that new restaurant and he’ll be like “I went there last week. It wasn’t very good.” Drives me nuts sometimes!
Thankfully, my husband and I are open books. Due to my past, he knew I needed someone who was overly honest so I didn’t have to play any guessing games. I’m sure something will come up soon but I hope it’s nothing like naughty websites. 😛
Wow, I can’t imagine having my kids sweat it out during the summer, especially since I have two boys. The smell isn’t going to be helpful to all of us! It’s nice that you’ve uncovered these secrets though!
My husband tells me pretty much everything. But he works so much that he doesn’t have time to do anything secret, and he doesn’t really know how to use a computer.
I’m sitting here dying laughing right now! Omg the air conditioner situation would have blew my mind. I so need to have one on when I sleep, I couldn’t even imagine.
My husband is pretty good about telling me things. But, we are both so busy, I think the number one thing he forgets to tell me is his schedule, too.
I am sure m y husband has his secrets as well. I think it is funny your husband hides his dirty clothes from you!
I agree with this, sometimes men are not 100% honest. It’s okay that they keep some few little secrets as long as it wouldn’t be something big in the future or something won’t make us argue.
Yes I’m sure we all have our things right? We both work form home so we spend lots of time together.
I think everyone has secrets. We can only hope that they aren’t ones that can hurt!
It’s definitely interesting finding out new things even after years in a relationship! It’s pretty crazy that you found out he was an organ donor by accident!
LOL, he hides his clothes huh? I think my husband always thinks he’s told me things when he hasn’t.
I always think that I know everything there is to know about my husband then I find fast food wrappers hidden in his truck after we decided to give it up or boxes full of crap that I threw away and he happened to take out of the garbage because he “might need it.” I am glad I am not the only wife that discovers little secrets like this.
I am literally LOLing at him hiding clothes so you cant wash it. #4 I fell out because you had to threaten him to put an AC in the kids room because his root relied on sweating it out in his childhood!
One thing that you’ve got to know about my family is that no one ever stops talking. I wonder if there are any secrets my husband keeps from me. I’d probably appreciate him not telling me so I could have a moment of silence.
I don’t think my husband has any secrets from me, but this was an interesting blog post. I do have friends who found out some of their husband’s secrets and it wasn’t a good thing.
If my husband is keeping secrets from me, I have no knowledge of it (yet). Although I am pretty sure we are open in our relationships, it is still good if we don’t keep secrets from each other.