It seems like the question everyone asks, in hushed whispered tones– are you having sex in your marriage? Are you still interested in sex with your husband? Is sex still as good as it was when you first met your husband? Seriously the list of emails about my sex life and private facebook messages to the Married My Sugar daddy Page would shock you–like are you doing anything really exciting in your sex life with your husband- including a “do you think you would consider bringing in another person?”
While I thought this was an absolutely incredulous question– after reading this husband’s honest account of trying a threesome and adding another gentleman to his sex life as a way to spice up and maintain desire in his marriage I realize it is actually not as uncommon or even aberrant as one might think.
You might be sitting here reading this post with your mouth agape and thinking- no way- this would never fly in my marriage when your sex life wanes- at what lengths would you go to keep your marriage intact but still get your needs met? This man at Slate.com offers this honest response:
“We both love each other very much and have no desire to end our marriage. However, we do recognize that there are different needs that often wreck other marriages and we are not willing to give up our marriage to conform to societal norms by limiting sex to the two of us. She is not “whoring” around but even the variety of one additional partner has made a difference in our relationship.
Many women that my wife has discussed this with have commented that they wish they could have similar arrangements with their husbands but it is totally out of the question in their relationships and they would never even bring it up.”
So here is my take on this: while I don’t think I would be able to handle seeing my husband with someone else – in the dark recesses of my mind this does sound like a GREAT DEAL for a wife! But in all seriousness I think it is incredibly hard to keep your sex life fresh.
So the real question remains- when it comes to sex in your marriage– ARE YOU HAVING ANY?! And what lengths would you go to keep your marriage intact but still get your needs met?