I am nothing if not completely bare bones honest on this blog which is why I can say without any reservations that UNTIL I got married I did not enjoy sex. Yes I had sex before marriage but with each “encounter” I struggled with such intense guilt after the fact that my sex life pre-marriage was not only fraught with anxiety, but to be as blunt as possible it SUCKED. I guess because I had such guilt over the fact that I was engaging in sex before marriage I struggled with allowing myself to fully enjoy the carnal act of it and the obsessive guilty feelings I harbored post sex, I know took a heavy toll on my relationships with said sex partners i.e. boyfriends and colored my pre-sex dating life prior to meeting my husband at the age of 23 years old.
I guess one would ask, “If you has SUCH GUILT over pre-marital sex why didn’t you just abstain from sex prior to marriage?” To which I respond– Because I wanted to have sex. I wanted to own my sexuality. I wanted to fight against my anxiety and I wanted to overcome my religious guilt. I didn’t want to be controlled by it. Which is why I am ALL for JasminTv’s new campaign to destigmatize our culture’s archaic notion that sex should be a taboo subject.
The truth is #sexishealthy and as someone who was raised with a healthy does of guilt over sex, fear of sex, and indoctrinated with the belief that SEX was purely for procreation as I head into my 41 year on this planet I am committed to supporting campaigns and endeavors like this #sexishealthy campaign which challenges America’s wonky perspective on sex.
With big banners and upbeat attitudes, the ladies of JasminTv headed to Coachella to discuss the persisting negative climate around sex. One poolside lounger at the Ace Hotel stated, “The American perspective on sex is totally hypocritical.” She noted that sex is used to sell everything from cars to cheeseburgers, but it is still largely taboo in the context of people actually having it. This frustration was echoed by a solid 100% of nearly 5000 people the team spoke with on the final day of the festival.
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And while most people will already agree that having sex is pretty great in case you needed another excuse to have more of it, sex can be great for your health too. While it might not be a good idea to race home today and plead with your partner for sex because ‘you keep telling me to be healthier,’ there are definitely good reasons to enjoy some private time together. Besides the obvious, and very fun, benefits of sex, both your physical and emotional health can be improved with regular intimacy.
Having sex, no matter how regularly, is never going to be able to replace your workout routine or supersede your doctor’s orders. However, knowing a few of the key health benefits of sex can help ignite the passion in your bedroom and help to give it a new purpose.
Physical Benefits of Sex
If you’ve ever had sex, you know that it can leave you tired, sweaty, and even sore (in a good way). Does that sound a lot like another activity that doctors often recommend? It’s exercise! While it may not be the exactly the same as hitting the gym for a few sets of bench presses, sex is definitely exercise. Everyone’s favorite neighborhood doctor, WebMD, notes that you can burn five calories a minute during sex. Consider that fact next time your partner urges you not to stop while in bed; it’s for both of your well-beings.
Maybe five calories a minute isn’t enough to convince you of the benefits of sex. Perhaps lower blood pressure and reduced risk of heart attack might entice you to have more sex? A 2006 study found that men who had sex at least twice a week have lower blood pressure than those with less or no sexual activity. You might still want to give up red meat and fatty foods, but sex should remain a healthy part of any balanced diet. Having sex with your partner isn’t just a matter of the heart, it can literally work to help protect your heart. Along with all of the other benefits, having sex can actually help boost your immune system to aid in fighting off sickness and disease. It’s a safe and natural way to protect your body from unwelcome ailments. With all of this information, sex starts to feel like it might make you invincible. It won’t, but it’s worth trying!
Emotional Benefits of Sex
Sex is a physical activity, but the emotional connection generated cannot be ignored. There are numerous mental and emotional benefits to having regular and satisfying sex for you and for your partner. The relaxation you feel after sleeping with your partner, and being intimate, is by no means an accident. Just as sex can help to lower blood pressure, it can also lead to lower levels of stress; that lack of stress is a key component to a happy life and happy relationship.
Probably the most important thing in any relationship is keeping your partner happy, and a good sex life can be one way to help in that area. That chore that’s been on your to-do list for the past month will be the last thing on anyone’s mind while building towards orgasm. Sex brings you physically and emotionally as close as possible to your partner. To put it simply, a satisfying sex life can help lead to a stable and satisfying relationship. A happier partner is the fastest way to a happier self.
Regular sex can help two people grow stronger in their relationship, but the emotional benefits extend to the individual as well. Sex can both act as an anti-depressant and lead to higher self-esteem. The endorphins released during sex help to take your mind off of pain, and the physical act itself can help improve your self-image. While sex isn’t going to solve all of life’s problems, it is a fantastic and fun place to start.
You probably never needed another reason to pursue more sex with your partner, but it never hurts to have a few key points in your corner just in case. The physical benefits of sex include those of any exercise routine, on top of it being really fun. Emotionally, sex can be a blessing for both the individual and the relationship. Whether you need to burn a few extra calories or just grow closer to the person you love, sex can be a great tool. An apple a day might keep the doctor away, but engaging in sex each day just feels like a better way.
This post is part of a sponsored conversation with JasminTV but as is always the case all opinions expressed are my own.