Wedding bells fade and the realization sinks in: You're married. The formal celebration and blissful honeymoon getaway is over. Now the hard work of making a life together in the real world begins. Here's some relationship advice for the first year of marriage. That piece of paper changes things Even if you live with someone and play house long before you walk down the aisle, once you get … [Read more...]
In a Relationship is Silence Golden or Deadly?
I've been married 17 years and with my husband for 20 years. Suffice it to say- yes there are times we have become that couple who I swore we'd NEVER become. We have indeed, sat in a restaurant, at our kitchen table, in the car, in our bed, in our living room and in just about any other situation you can conceive of in pure, unadulterated-and at times- DEAFENING SILENCE. And not just silence for … [Read more...]
5 Tips to Help Your New Love Interest Pass That Critical Face-to-Face With the Parents
I remember when my parents initially met my husband. It was August 1997 and I was in that dreamy, can't-take-my-eyes-off-you, phase with my now husband. I couldn't stop touching his arm, holding his hand- as my mother mentioned recently it was kind of nauseatingly sweet. I honestly don't even remember exact details of their initial meet and greet other than my parents brought my little brother … [Read more...]
6 tips for making your marriage work and avoiding divorce
Let's face it--marriage is work. I know when we think of the institution of marriage and for any engaged woman who has spent months pinning to her wedding boards on pinterest- it's highly unlikely any of those boards would include the words WORK-- for those of us who have been in this "institution" for longer than a year ( I've clocked 17 years) we can all attest to one thing- without working at … [Read more...]
5 Arguments You Should Avoid AT all Costs in Your Marriage
There are five arguments that no matter how often you remind yourself NOT to have them with your husband, somehow they manage to rear their ugly head. And as a woman who has been in the marriage trenches for 17 years, while I don't have a degree in counseling- my degree in the hard knock world of marriage has taught me some lessons about what it takes to STAY MARRIED. Well this year I'm going … [Read more...]