When you get married you take vows to honor, cherish and never have sex with anyone other than your spouse. You enter into this contract with unilateral trust. Most of us believe in the sanctity of marriage and our ability to sustain monogamy with our chosen spouses for 50 fairy tale years (or more!) of wedded bliss. We want to believe that our marriage and the bonds we share with our spouse are … [Read more...]
If you spy on your spouse and you find out he’s been unfaithful, then what?
After having witnessed friends and families whose marriages have imploded after infidelities, there is a part of me that does not completely trust my husband. And so if I had to categorize myself - I'd probably label myself a snooper. I've been known on occasion, to question him about the names on these pieces of paper, perhaps in a surreptitious attempt to catch him in a lie- or perhaps just to … [Read more...]
If you cheat on your soon to be spouse, do you have to come clean?
"If I cheated on my boyfriend in the past, several times, should I tell him now. It has been three years since I last cheated on him and well I did not sleep with the other guys. We are planning to get married soon but the remorse haunts me. As well, at one point in our relationship he decided to leave the past in the past and go forward." This is a comment a reader just submitted and I thought … [Read more...]
If your spouse engaged in an infidelity- would you know?
Most of us believe in the sanctity of marriage and our ability to sustain monogamy with our chosen spouses for 50 fairy tale years (or more) of wedded bliss. We want to believe that our marriage and the bonds we share with our spouse are unbreakable. We choose to tough out the daily marathon work that sustaining a marriage takes- because we believe in its power to center us- and provide us with a … [Read more...]
2 Reasons Having the World Watch your Marriage Implode on Reality TV is not the KEY to Fixing Your Marriage
I've learned a few valuable lessons being married 16 years. I've learned that airing your very public and dirty laundry in a room of people while your husband is sitting there- does NOTHING to help your marriage or gain support for you from your husband. All it does is alienate him further and it makes you look like you picked a bag egg. That's right when I first got married I had no idea that it … [Read more...]