I have many neuroses. Too many to jot down in this blog post- most unfounded but so steeped in guilt and so much a part of my character that I'd need years of out-patient behavior modification under the supervision of a trained professional to rid myself of them. And even then- after doing all that work- I still think I'd cling to many of my neuroses because wile I abhor them and how they … [Read more...]
Parents Need to Be a United Front When it Comes to Raising Kids
It took me 17 years but the longer I parent the more I have come to the conclusion that Parents Need to Be a United Front When it Comes to Raising Kids. I'll admit it- I want to be the fun one. I want to be that parent I think my kids crave. Unfortunately when it comes to raising and disciplining my kids I am hungry for their approval, as my husband who could not be more my polar opposite, … [Read more...]
If You Want to Stay Married Happily You Must Hate The Same People
I recently looked at my husband after we watched the intense drama, Captain Phillips, and asked him, " Why do we hate Tom Hanks?" That seems like a crazy question right? I mean the man has been in beloved films like Castaway and Big and even headlined the campy classic TV comedy Bosom Buddies. And yet- my husband and I both have this mutual understanding that we hate him. I'm not even sure how or … [Read more...]
What a phone call taught me about my marriage
Although I live in NYC, going into Manhattan each day via express bus or via the Bridge ala Working Girl- is not something I relish, especially during the oh so crowded month of March. Sure Sarah Jessica Parker made running the streets of Manhattan in six inch stilettos look glamorous, but the reality of it--I'm guessing- Ms. Parker has got some JACKED UP feet. I spent the better part of … [Read more...]
Men don’t worry and why women could learn a thing or two from them
I worry about everything. I am a worrier. I think in worrying I believe I am asserting some power over the the outcome of the issue I am worrying about. Or perhaps in worrying I believe I can have some power over that which I feel powerless, as if the actual act of worrying is in some way keeping what I am worried about in check- and letting the gds of fate know I deserve the outcome I desire … [Read more...]