Apparently sex and intimacy are key to a rock solid relationship (or so we've ALL been told). Problem: You are in a major love slump. No, not the usual wish-you-were-in-a-relationship kind of slump-- you finally got that covered when you met your betrothed. There's just one problem: You're not having sex. Of course this is not for lack of trying on your partner's part. He's done everything short … [Read more...]
Is married sex really the best sex?
I've been married for 16 years, which means I've technically been having sex with the same person for 16 years (if my mother is reading this I was a virgin before I got married). And while popular culture portrays married sex as perfunctory, stale and usually in the missionary position with a wife who often just rolls over to take one for the team--as a married lady I beg to differ. Married sex … [Read more...]
Marriage is almost never what you sign up for (unless you have a prenup!)
So this morning as I'm dropping my son off at school, something my husband's been doing since he redefined his life's expectations (a lovely way to say that he decided he could no longer practice medicine- right?!) and this woman I know said, "Where's your husband?" To which I replied, "Oh he's off training for his Chandler job. She looked at me like I had two heads and said, "Wow you really … [Read more...]
The motherlode of guilt when it comes to your marriage
I'm not sure exactly when the last time I had sex was...I'm guessing about two weeks ago (although I'm sure if I asked my husband when it was he could rattle off the precise minute and date!) and I feel guilty. I worry I'm neglecting my relationship and that becoming more like roommate buddies is probably not the best way to keep our relationship on track. Of course I know I'm not alone... and … [Read more...]