If you ask my kids, I’m sure they’d enthusiastically espouse the merits of hanging with their dad, as opposed to me. Of course, my husband wholeheartedly would echo their sentiments and insist that staying home with dad is infinitely more fun for kids than with mom because dads care less about the small stuff.
My husband asserts the daddy fun factor can be attributed to the fact that men in general are ultimately more focused on life’s big picture, a trait most moms, myself included, have trouble embracing.
So, the child wants to wear his pajamas all day and eat peanut butter and jelly for breakfast, lunch and dinner? Dads will more often than not say, “Go for it son!” whereas mom counterparts would tell the kid to change into his clothing and draw the line at one PB&J for the day.
Kids who go to Daddy daycare â€” that is, hang with their dad rather than with a babysitter â€” can expect to get nice and dirty at the park as fathers don’t care much for baby wipes or hand-sanitizer. They’ll also likely get a healthy dose of frolicking under a lawn sprinkler because what dad doesn’t welcome the idea to multitask and water his lawn while providing ample opportunity for his kids to exhaust an hour.
Ask my kids about this elusive Daddy fun factor and they’ll tell you, being with their dad is fun because as my daughter says, “He doesn’t really pay as close attention to things as you do and he says yes most of the time especially when he’s watching a sports show.” On the other hand My son says, “Because he gets me coolatas and when they don’t have coolatas, he gets me ice cream” ( mind you this is from a boy who when asked what his favorite part of tripping to Disney world was, told his grandmother, “the chocolate milk I drank in the airport.”)
So moms and dads out there–what do you think is the secret behind the daddy fun factor? My two cents, it’s that a dad doesn’t sweat the small stuff and pretty much ignores the kids, unless they need something– which in reality is all kids really need to know…that we’re here if they need us, but not for us to hover over them.