Now that I have clocked 19 years of marriage under my belt, along with two kids and three dogs, (Gd rest My Mellie’s soul) I know one thing for sure- if I didn’t love my husband truly, madly, deeply I would’ve exited this marriage a LONG TIME AGO. Raising kids is hard work, it’s lonely, its frustrating and if I didn’t have a husband to share it all with I’m not sure I’d have gotten this far. We’re like a tag team me and my guy, when one needs a break the other takes over, we’ve found this rhythm to our lives, that feeds all the others we love and cherish, namely our kids. I also feel like loving my husband- is truly like loving my kids– he’s one half of their DNA, our love as seen through their eyes is so powerful and I know gives them a sense of peace and calm.
This experience of marriage has also taught me some valuable lessons about loving someone and staying present during moments and experiences when all you want to do is look for the nearest emergency exits and hightail it out of there. During each instance of strife, getting through it always renews my love for this man I call my husband. And so I’ve narrowed down the four traits that,based on our experiences, are ones that EVERY good husband possesses, because in every marriage there will be that period where life gets incredibly strained, confusing and not all that fun. But it’s the husbands who can ride those waves with you, that are the true keepers.
Things this Wife finds COMPLETELY irresistible about her husband after 19 years of marriage
# 1 A man who will spend the day driving kids to basketball practice ( even though there WAS NO PRACTICE), piano lessons, pick up Chinese takeout, make his sick wife soup and pop a load of laundry in the wash. When this man (aka MY Husband) does stuff like this, I basically WANT. TO. RIP. HIS. CLOTHES. OFF.
#3 A man who lets you fill your house with all things pink and frilly and doesn’t mind the stuffed animals littering every nook and cranny, aka, he wants you to surround yourself with objects and things that make you feel special and loved- even if they’re in direct opposition to his understated and very masculine tastes.
#4 A man who is a soothing, soft place for you to fall. A man who is a touchstone for you; no judgements, no expectations and sets no limits or time table for you on any issues. He just lets you be.
So ladies– what do you find COMPLETELY irresistible about your husband (aside from, you know, his six pack?!)