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This Weekend We Purged and my Husband Cried a little on the Inside

March 23, 2020 by Melissa Chapman 15 Comments

So how did the husband and I kick off this glorious past weekend? This Weekend We Purged

That is right- we did not spend it grilling up fake meat like our plane was going down and stuffing our faces with oreo cake!

Hell to the no. Mama was knee deep in rooting through the muck of hoarderesque stuff littering this house. In 2020 I've decided that it's time to get rid of the  things my husband and I are  holding onto.

This Weekend We Purged and my Husband Cried a little on the Inside

It started quite simply- I think I was looking for something- and then I happened upon that Roy Roger's wagon wheel coffee table that adorned my husband's bachelor pad lair in 1989 and said, that's it- it's time to purge ( MUCH to my husband's chagrin) and I didn't really get how intimately connected he was to his old stuff until he clued me in. Here's his side: This Weekend We Purged

“When I moved into our home on Staten Island 18 years ago, I moved the contents of my former life and put it up in the attic and basement and now I realize that after 14 years I haven't used any of that stuff; my old speakers, those eighties era studio chairs ( the kind straight from the movie About Last Night) so my wife decided it was time to unclutter and this time I didn't argue my case for keeping them. But they were more than furniture, they represented a period in time when my whole personal and professional life was ahead- there was so much excitement, hope . I remember buying those chairs, those gargantuan speakers. I was a young doctor in training and  I have to admit looking back on it I remember feeling on top of the world.  I had an apartment, new speakers, new chairs I had a job that I thought would be the job of my lifetime. The world was my oyster and I thought that anything was possible. No kids, no house, no wife.. and now 18 years later- my wife and kids are my life and I love them but it was sad to see a part of my life being thrown out and I guess how my life has not ended up the way , back then at 35 that I pictured it. It was a time of limitless potential and I miss that guy who thought he could do anything, I want him back, I just don't know how to get back to him.”

– My heart broke a little bit as I watched  my husband gather up his belongings but luckily– we are NOT just hauling them off to a landfill- we will be donating EVERYTHING!

Oh and not to be a TOTAL grinch I did save that Roy Rogers wagon wheel coffee table. I know my husband has a lot of mental and physical work ahead of him- and while I want to feel like my love and the love of our kids should be enough to keep him- I know it isn't.

 
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  1. Pam Wattenbarger says

    March 24, 2020 at 1:00 pm

    That’s great that you are making constructive use of your time. I’m glad he got to keep that wagon wheel table. 🙂 Tell your husband thanks for his service as a doctor during this time too!

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  2. Amber Myers says

    March 24, 2020 at 3:10 pm

    You reminded me that we should probably start to purge. Our garage is scary at the moment. There is TONS we can get rid of, I’m sure.

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  3. Tasheena says

    March 24, 2020 at 5:03 pm

    I told him we need to purge my garage. This is such a great reminder. I have so many great things that could be donated.

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  4. GiGi Eats says

    March 24, 2020 at 5:10 pm

    I am the one who would probably cry inside if we purged a bunch of stuff. I am such a hoarder! lol! But I am TOTALLY getting better!!

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  5. Sarah Bailey says

    March 24, 2020 at 7:34 pm

    It sounds like you are making use of your time and good on your for donating things. I think it can be so hard let things go at times but also a good thing to do.

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  6. Chef Dennis says

    March 25, 2020 at 6:54 am

    I think we really need to purge too! Thank you for reminding us. Might be a great way to use our free time.

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  7. Catalina says

    March 25, 2020 at 11:14 am

    I think this is such a useful way to spend your time. I hope to find some time to purged too. It’s a must once in a while!

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  8. Marysa says

    March 25, 2020 at 1:49 pm

    I am sick of all the clutter, and trying to get rid of stuff like crazy! I can totally relate to this.. I have been throwing out a lot of stuff and will continue to do so!

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  9. Cheryl says

    March 25, 2020 at 2:13 pm

    My husband cries a little every time I ask him to purge his clothes. Don’t worry, it gets a little easier!

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  10. Beth says

    March 25, 2020 at 3:45 pm

    I find purging to be both hard and liberating. I’m glad your husband was able to keep something that is meaningful to him. A few years ago I asked my husband to go through some of his stuff from high school and college. Those boxes are still sitting next to his dresser.

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  11. Deborah Cruz says

    March 25, 2020 at 3:54 pm

    THis is me. But I’m the hoarder. My husband has no attachment to things at all. He could chuck it all with out a care, as long as he has his people. I grew up poorer than him and its hard for me to let go of things.

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  12. Kathy says

    March 25, 2020 at 5:07 pm

    I’m going to be going through things as well. I have so much I need to get rid of. I think this is the perfect time to go through everything too.

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  13. Nancy at Whispered Inspirations says

    March 25, 2020 at 7:57 pm

    We have doing home projects too. It’s a good time to do it and one positive thing right now. It feels good to purge.

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  14. Ice Cream n Sticky Fingers says

    March 25, 2020 at 8:30 pm

    I cleaned out my closet a few months ago. It was freeing to do so but I’m sure things around here still could use purging.

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  15. Mama Maggie's Kitchen says

    March 25, 2020 at 8:56 pm

    We are thinking of doing some purge, too! We’re having too many things and I think this is the great time to do it. Hope you had a fun time purging!

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