Romance is not just for Valentine’s Day; romance adds spice, texture and color to life. Unfortunately, most of us don’t utilize this much in our life and relationship. Sound Familiar? Keep reading for Tips to Get Your Date Night On and Bring Romance into Your Relationship.
Romance is probably one of the hardest muscles to exercise unless you are in the dating world, and even then you might feel challenged. Attracting love, maintaining a relationship and figuring out what will tickle your spouse is something you will need to work on every day of your marriage.
Lucky for us Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT is sharing some Tips to Get Your Date Night On and Bring Romance into Your Relationship aka how to exercise our romance and passion muscle and help us attract our “soul mate” whether you are dating and/or help you tickle your partner if you are in a relationship.
Ready? So, the goal is not really to find your “soul mate” and obviously not to turn your partner into your soul mate. The goal is to become soul mate material! Yes, take a second to digest that… This journey is not about finding or having the right person but about Being the right person, Being YOU… For when you are you, you will attract and create Awesomeness and have all the romance and passion you desire!
How do you measure up in the Being Fabulous department? Yes, at your core you are fabulous, but are you owning your fabulousness? Or are you walking around with defense mechanisms and less than attractive qualities that actually repel others, including your partner? This is where it all starts, with you. When you show up with your fabulous Self all else is a walk in the park.
Keep reading for her Tips to Get Your Date Night On and Bring Romance into Your Relationship. Techniques to empowering you, to bringing out your swag, and to exercising your romantic muscle to keep the romance and passion going!
Tips to Get Your Date Night On and Bring Romance into Your Relationship
Soulful Dates™
On the first Sunday of the month, pick two hours per week where you and your partner get to have special “Me Time.” Block off the time and make arrangements to have this time honored. During this time, read an inspiring book or listen to inspiring programs or other audio material, attend a prayer group, meditate, attend a religious service, do yoga, get a massage or other body treatment, tinker with your plants or in your garden, journal, do any other self growth and development, spiritual or self care activity that nurtures and replenishes the two of you and your relationship.
And if that soulful date includes a Game Night in-then go for it!
Be mindful.
Don’t forget to make mindfulness a part of your date night.
Build into your interactions:
– Use of your gender energy (femininity, masculinity)
– Listening, validation and understanding, compassion and empathy
– Vulnerability and showing up
– Courtesy, mindfulness, thoughtfulness, nurturing, chivalry
Build into your special time together:
– Stimulating the senses
– Doing something different, having a different experience
– Adding a challenge, adventure or physicality
– Being somewhere different
– Fantasy and roleplaying… (even if it’s just in your mind!)
Dress the Part.
Nab some clothing that you designate just for your date nights. Try and veer from your usual style and choose ones that show off your best assets, are colorful and hug you in all the right places. here are a few Date Night options worth considering.
Create a Joint Tickle Box™
This is an incubator where the two of you get to generate the connection, the fun, the romance, the experiences… Find a box that talks to both of you. It can be rustic, it can be frilly.
This is your box, give it your personality. Or, you can make a virtual “box”! Use this box to collect sexy and romantic ideas and resources like trendy restaurants, perfect gifts, ultimate experiences, songs, delightful treats, great websites, activities, outings, whatever grabs your fancy. This is your fun, excitement, and romance generating box. The more you put in, the more you’ll get out. This is your go to place to create awesome energy and for creating romance. !
Use these tools to get in touch with your Self, to bring your Fabulous Self out to play, to create your brand of swag and blow your partner away with your brilliance and awesomeness. Be patient with yourself and your partner. Rome wasn’t built in a day. Focus on bringing your best Self forward and setting up your relationship for ongoing awesomeness one day, one new investment at a time.
Happy Romancing!!
Great information, I am a firm believer in dating your spouse! Thanks for the tips and tricks!
Tickle Box sounds like fun! I am always looking for ways to keep things fresh in my marriage 🙂
Good ideas! My husband and I could certainly use a date night away from these kids, we’ve barely been able to escape since I had my daughter in July.
Date night is really important especially if you’ve been married for years! It’s one of the best ways to keep the fire burning! I think these are wonderful tips!
These are all really good ideas. Hubby and I don’t date nearly as often as we should.
SO fun! Dating your spouse is soo important and SO much fun!
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It’s been a long time since I last went on a date with my husband. It’s just been busy lately, and I know it’s not a good excuse to skip date night. These are great tips!
I could use a date night. My usual sitter, my mom, had a stroke in June and isn’t quite back to being comfortable watching the kids yet. We have been doing at home date nights lately when the kids fall asleep lol
These are some great ideas! It is important to keep date night going, even in marriage, to make sure that the romance never dies.
I too love the idea of making time for your selves the beginning of the month. I love the “dress the part”, having self confidence I think goes a long way in your marriage.
Dressing the part is a good reminder. We sometimes get so caught up and busy, that even when we head out for a dinner just the two of us, we don’t dress up.
my husband is the LEAST romantic person on this planet. I gave up trying with him years ago, it just doesn’t work – ti’s not his thing. You have to do what works for the couple. I love that frock though! ☺
Great ideas! I feel like our entire days and nights are fully consumed by kid stuff – running, them around, taking care of them, activities and unexpected chaos. We definitely need to make us more of a priority together.
Date night doesn’t have to end after you are married on in a relationship. You got to spice things up and keep the romance alive. Finding unique activities to do at home or out is a great way to do this.
These are some great ways to get the romance back into the relationship. We definitely can get into a rut or routine and that spark can just be waiting to be ignited again.
Such great advice and tips! I love all of these and they can still be practiced even when you’re not dating!
This is something I need to do with my husband. We have not had a date night in a while. It is time!
Date night is absolutely important! You have some truly sound tips there. Awesome – have a great week!
Stimulating the senses is a great idea. When you are being stimulated in various ways, it opens you up to being more romantic with your partner.
I like the idea of setting aside time at the beginning of the month. It sets the tone for the whole month.
Dating your spouse is so important – these are fun ideas for keeping the romance and spontaneity alive. Now I’m going to have to figure out what to put in my Tickle Box.
You have some fun tips and tricks. I think its high time we have a date night around here!
It is definitely super important to date your spouse. I find that with 6 kids, things get busy, but I love to get dolled up for him whenever I can and I think that helps a lot.
These are great tips! I’m needing to come up with new date night ideas and this post has so many fun ideas!