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Tips to keep your Marriage’s Romantic Embers Burning (which doesn’t include going gaga over an infommercial product that can grind down your respective callouses)

December 22, 2020 by Melissa Chapman 8 Comments

After 22 years of marriage, my husband and I have fallen into a major relationship rut. As Sex and the City character Carrie Bradshaw would say, “We’ve become Mr. and Mrs. Married.” More than ever we need Tips to keep your Marriage’s Romantic Embers Burning.

That undeniable magnetism that drew us together, has not necessarily disappeared but after two kids, a mortgage and insurance payments its force has dissipated. And last night while sitting in bed, and realizing that we were both going gaga for …DRUM ROLL…for an infommercial product  that could grind down our respective callouses – I realized our quality time spent together needed a bit of an OVERHAUL.

Tips to keep your Marriage's Romantic Embers Burning

Let me paint you a picture:

Life, and all the demands of raising kids is wreaking havoc on your relationship with your husband; and has systematically robbed you of that passion; that fire that seemed to erupt in your belly, each time you just so much as glanced at your betrothed. In fact, when you look at your husband these days, all you can think of is; did you pay the gardener’s bill, remember to get the car’s oil changed and buy diapers for the baby. And if your husband leaves his shaving cream mess in the sink’s basin just one more time, well you’re simply going to lose it.

The stress of maintaining a household and kids has in effect driven a bit of a wedge between you and your man and that long dormant sparkle that seemed to ignite the minute you saw your love well it’s been all but extinguished.

So I asked Dr. Joni Frater and Esther Lastique, co-authors Love Her Right: The Married Man’s Guide to Lesbian Secrets For Great Sex! for their opinion on how important sex and time with your spouse in your marriage is and here is their take.

Tips to keep your Marriage’s Romantic Embers Burning

Tips to keep your Marriage's Romantic Embers Burning

Tips to keep your Marriage’s Romantic Embers Burning

“When we make a habit of not being romantic and sexual, it becomes very easy to walk away from that side of ourselves. It’s also a scary proposition to build that bridge back to one another once the distance has been created. Remember the passion and love that brought you together and fight for it. Make romance your priority and your whole family will be happier and healthier.

They offer these two tips to keep your romantic embers burning , which of course will only enhance your sex life- and BIG Disclaimer- I have tried them and I’ll tell you they work.

The magic daily 10 minutes: If you simply can’t physically get away, Dr. Frater and Ms. Lastique suggest that every day, couples set aside 10 minutes to be completely alone, with no interruptions. That includes television, phones, and kids. During these ten minutes, you can talk about any topic that does not cause you stress that means no talk about the kids, work, in-laws or money and instead discuss topics that help you get to know each other again. Is there a new restaurant you want to try, a language you want to learn, a fantasy vacation you want to take, a vision of what retirement might look like? Find out what dreams and goals your partner has today chances are they might be different than the last time you asked.

Commit to making date nights with your partner: The easiest, fastest and cheapest way to transform your relationship is to revitalize your sexual connection. To do that with kids in the picture means setting boundaries and teaching the kids to respect them. You will all be happier for it.

So will you be taking a vacation from your kids anytime soon?

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  1. Claudia says

    December 23, 2020 at 3:37 pm

    My husband and I have always tried to make time specifically for each other. When my son was young, we would regularly send him to spend the night with his grandparents and have date night.

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  2. Mar Wahrer says

    December 24, 2020 at 12:44 am

    Intimacy and communication are both so important for a healthy marriage. My husband and I make it a point to reconnect with one another every evening after the kids go to bed.

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  3. Wanda Lopez says

    December 24, 2020 at 2:24 am

    We also have two kids and 21 years of marriage. To this day we still make time to go on date nights and spend time together. It is very important to make time for what matters.

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  4. Myrah Duque says

    December 24, 2020 at 2:28 am

    Communication is of utmost importance, I got to realize it during my recent hospitalizations. It’s important to spend time together as much as possible.

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  5. Mae says

    December 24, 2020 at 9:26 am

    Communication, trust, respect, and love. Although, it is also very important to have some quality time together, alone. Date nights are a must!

    Reply
  6. Heather says

    December 24, 2020 at 3:53 pm

    We do regular weekly date nights- even if we can’t go anywhere out of the house. It’s such a good habit to have!

    Reply
  7. Janeane M Davis says

    December 25, 2020 at 2:09 am

    One thing that is true in this article is that marriage is not always 50/50. In fact, it never should be. In order for marriage to succeed, each person must give their 100% at all times.

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  8. Ryan Escat says

    December 25, 2020 at 9:58 am

    We never tried to have date nights, but sometimes I’m thinking that as well. Instead, we were taking a walk while eating our fave milk tea and comfort food.

    Reply

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