As I’m about to approach my 18th year of marriage on December 19th I thought it was a good time to ask the Sugar Daddy aka MY HUSBAND and best friend for his thoughts on 5 Things husbands REALLY want their Wives to do in a marriage. You might not agree with any, you might agree with some- but at least he’s honest and his answers might provide you with some much needed perspective about your male counterpart.
#1 Stay as beautiful as you were on your wedding day.
Me: That sounds like a great idea in theory- but you know women are going to castrate you for saying that. It is impossible to remain as beautiful as you were when you got married.
Him: It is not impossible. Obviously you’re going to age but you can still stay in shape.
Me: So husbands really want a skinny wife?
Him: No- just in shape. Fit- not fat.
Me: So you are saying husbands don’t like wives who let themselves go.
Him: Yes that is what I’m saying- because it takes romance out of it- you want that person to have pride in herself and her looks and to be healthy. And yes it does make you less attracted to her when she doesn’t.
Me: Does the same go for the husbands?
Him: YES. absolutely. You see me- I work out everyday so I can be healthy and fit for you.
#2 & #3 Fidelity and Support.
To be true to your husband and support him in his opinions, his plans his goals, raising the kids. Husbands want wives who are on the same page as them. In terms of fidelity if my wife wanted to be with someone else, I would rather her tell me- “I need to leave this marriage” as opposed to me finding her cheating on me. I think all men want honesty from their wives.
#4 Be a best friend.
Criticize honestly. Tell your husband the truth, good or bad. If you have bad breath- the only person who can tell you is your wife.
#5 Let your husband hold the remote.
As superficial as it is- let him hold the remote. It’s really symbolic- let him take charge sometimes- let him be the father, the dad, the man.
I love this take on what husband’s want in marriage. You can’t beat information straight from the horse’s mouth.
I love this! And he seemed honest too. The remote thing cracks me up. It’s like he does not feel like a man unless HE has the remote.
I was all good with everything you said here until you said let him have the remote LOL! I never let him have the remote LOL. But yes everything you say here is extremely important in a marriage. But it’s not just on the wife the husband too.
you know this is pretty cool. i don’t think i have ever looked at it from the mans perspective.
Let him have the remote?! That’s why we have 2 TVs. Love these tips. I’ll be asking my husband his top 5 also.
My Husband is happy if I am happy with myself. He does have a strange urge to always have control of the remote lol.
My husband and I love the same shows so it does not matter who has the remote. It is usually me turning down the volume for the commercials.
Cool that you got his perspective on things. I should ask my husband this questions.
The remote is mine hahahha. I control TV for the most part! I only get 1 hour in a day so when he is around it is my turf.
Interesting perspective. I, like many others, can’t give up the controller though lol. We try to mostly watch things we agree on so I don’t think it’s that bad for him
This is a great list. I think they’re all so very true too. I need to ask my husband what he thinks of this list.
I’m with you on #2, #3, and #4. I’m not sure how I feel about #1 and #5, lol. But I guess that’s why we all find our own best friends to marry.
Sounds reasonable! I think it is great to get a man’s perspective. But he is not getting the remote. lol
It’s interesting to hear it from the man’s perspective. What is it with a man and the remote though? That I will never understand. LOL
I really love your honesty when it comes to marriage (and life). I feel awful that my body looks so different from when we got married!
Ahhhh, my husband can give me suggestions on how I should look when he gives birth to three kids and start making more money than me – LOL!