My husband made the VERY unfortunate mistake of recently telling me he saw a mutual friend who looked skinny. And then I asked him a question- NO WIFE SHOULD EVER ASK her HUSBAND, ” Honey do you think she is SKINNIER THAN ME?”
In theory as a married couple you and your spouse should feel so secure in your relationship that no question should be off-limits. And of course that is a true statement and I certainly don’t advocate keeping your feelings a secret from your spouse. Open communication is clearly one of the pillars of a solid marriage. However, there are certain key subjects that will always, without fail, create discord and will unnecessarily strike fear in the hearts of all married men, namely because they know their answers to said questions will cause stress to both you and them. In fact before you attempt to ask one of these off-limits questions, all women need to ask themselves this:
A) What if I don’t like his answer…what then?
B) What if his answer opens up a Pandora’s box?
C) Is this question really worth starting a fight over?
D) Do I really want his honest opinion (or need it for that matter)?
Just what are the five questions you should stay away from and NEVER ask your husband? Keep reading!
#1 Does this dress make my butt look fat?
Bottom line: You have to ask the question- you probably already know the answer.
#2 Do you think that woman is sexy or pretty?
This question will always cause an argument- because if he says yes- it means he’s thinking about other women, and of course us wives NEVER want to conjure up such images within our consciousness.
#3 Do you think I should eat this?
Once again you know what you should and shouldn’t eat- and your husband’s answer will ultimately tell you something you might not want to hear– or you might take his opinion as trying to steer you in a direction you feel he has no right taking you.
#4 Do you like this dating reality show I’m watching?
Let’s face it- men don’t understand why or what compels women to watch these shows. PERIOD.
#5 Why do you love me?
Men don’t do well when put on the spot- instead of asking for verbal validation, let your husband show you his feelings through his actions as opposed to his words.
Stacie @ Divine Lifestyle says
I love this! I’ve never been one to do that whole “make me feel good” bit. It’s such a dirty trick.
Vera Sweeney says
I love this! Never ask a question you don’t want an answer to! There’s a reason it’s been a saying for a bazillion years.
Bill Sweeney says
As a husband, I completely appreciate this post so much. I’m so glad my wife has never been one to ask questions like this. She’s completely secure in herself, and I love that.
Pam Wattenbarger says
If I were to ask my husband if a dress made me look fat, he would say no without even looking. Definitely don’t ask questions you don’t want answers to though- to anyone.
This is awesome, to be honest! Love it, it’s true we ask questions that we really don’t want the honest answer from yet we ask…. I like when a husband tells his wife it’s bro code, we as men are note allowed to answer such questions (most of which are on your list) haha!
Sarah Bailey says
I have to admit I don’t think I’ve ever asked my OH any of those bar should I eat this, only because I can’t eat after a certain time and if I don’t have the time and he does I’ll ask and he’ll just say it’s a bit late and that’s the end of that.
Sarah @ The Outside Family says
Yeah, don’t think I have or ever would ask my husband these questions. Not something that would do either one of us any good.
Toni | Boulder Locavore says
These are really great points! Sometimes there are things that we really don’t need to talk about or things that are not important to ask. 🙂
I agree. I’ve been with my husband for 20 years and can say I have never asked him a single question like these you have posted here.
Annemarie LeBlanc says
Honestly, I never asked my husband any of those questions. I would rather ask him questions about current events, history and the weather forecast. LOL. Seriously, those questions are so shallow and would only come from women who feel insecure of themselves.
Jocelyn @ Hip Mama's Place says
These are definitely questions to avoid. I think they’re just going to start something that you and your husband will regret. It’s definitely better to avoid questions like these.
Amanda Love says
Asking these questions would be like picking fights with your husband. It’s not healthy at all and it would be best to just avoid them! Great tips!
Angela Milnes says
Such a great tips and it’s better to avoid this kind of question when you really know the answer.