Tis the season to be jolly and all that crapâ€¦ nice way to start a post- no?!
I’m trying to keep up a good front for my kids during what is supposed to be- at least according to every commercial and ad campaign on the airwaves and in print- “the most wonderful time of the year” and to that end I forked over $60 for a pair of pink leather European boots for my daughter who has been pining for a pair for quite some time.
(My husband reminded me that her boots are more expensive than the shoes I’m wearing and although I’m really not fond of indulging my kid’s materialistic requestsâ€” when I saw these boots- which just so happened to be on sale from $150, I acquiesced and gave into the shopping gods- who I think may have forced my hand and signed that credit card slip).
But I digress- why am I truly not feeling the holiday spirit of good cheer- albeit manufactured to get moms like me forking over $60 for a pair of boots? Because I’ve got some majah in-law issues plaguing my family’s inner sanctum of sanity and peace.
I never thought I’d be in this position. In fact, growing up with a mother who had a tense, acrimonious relationship with her own in-laws I vowed I would never repeat her mistakes. Of course, being 5 years old, I don’t think I fully grasped the gravity of the situation, nor did I understand the complex back story that shapes most relationships.
But at that age — when your basic understanding of the world is uncluttered by years of arguments and heinous hatred that, once spewed, can never be retracted — you cannot conceive of a period in your life where all won’t be rose-colored and the words ‘I’m sorry’ are not a cure-all.
Rather than get into the nitty gritty of my messy in-law situation, which I am praying will sooner than later be resolved ( and not in a way that includes the vandalization of my house)- I’m wondering how do you keep your marriage from being impacted by an acrimonious relationship with your in-laws…is it even possible?