The RULES girls Sherry and Ellen are back and they are serving up a new and improved Rules guide book– the rules every woman who wants to bait a man MUST follow by lest she wind up dating the same guy for 14 years with nary an engagement ring in sight. Now back in the day when these two ladies launched the original Rules Books I remember thinking–these women are cray-cray-why would I need to play games with a guy that I like? Of course then I started dating and realized it was all a big JEDI MIND TRICK- and that in order to GET THE GUY I had to play hard to get ( or so I thought).
Listening to them chatter on a recent talk show about the fact that most women these days are NOT getting the guy because they are too overly accessible and that in doing so they are actually losing the guy- I guess I could relate in a way. I agree that being too emotionally clingy is a recipe for disaster- but I also feel the same about being too emotionally cool. So where is that happy medium- and if you are a rules girl- does that mean you must always be a rules girl- in other words- WHEN – if ever can you stop playing games?
According to the RULES women here are some FACTS about men:
#1 All men want a little bit of what they can’t get and if you let them- they will chase you. When they chase you they really want you
#2 Every guy knows who they are crazy about from the second they meet her- Guys are either hot or not. Unlike women who can come to love someone. (I am interjecting on this point to say- the learning to love someone is TRUE FOR ME- been there done that- and the ironic part is that after a year with this guy- HE DUMPED ME!)
#3 Don’ t dress like men. Men are not turned on by women who have short hair or wear clothes like a man.
#4 Men are NOT addicted to women. Unlike women, men don’t drop everything- to be with women.
#Men Like a Chase
According to the Rules Women these are THE RULES women MUST follow in order to get a man.
#1 Don’t call him back, wait till he calls you.
#2 Don’t be naggy or difficult men want someone who leaves them alone and likes them the way they are.
#3 You need to act like you don’t like the guy.
#4 Remember- guys aren’t smart enough to play rules- they just work on PURE instinct. Remember- women buy relationships books- NOT MEN.
So now that I’ve read all the rules- here are my thoughts: What if all these rules and facts about men are true.? What if you land the guy followign said rules but if you are getting someone by not being yourself–aka by doing jedi mind tricks –do you really even want him and does he really want you? In other words are playing but the rules a good foundation for a relationship?