3 reasons I took away my daughter’s iPhone and why she PROBABLY won’t be getting it back — I think I’ve been honest about my desire to be the cool mom. To be the mom that gives my kids freedom, choice and who doesn’t hover or ask too many questions. I want to be that mom who allows them to develop their individual styles and tastes and doesn’t project her wants and desires onto them.
I try to be that mom who is cognizant that these kids of mine- are not chattel. They are not truly mine, they are on loan, they are a gift, they are my chance to help shape two little beings who I will send out to the world and will hopefully become productive citizens of the world. Which is why I have decided that we are at a point in our family where technology has begun to engulf us, and if I don’t physically remove this technology I’m not sure I will ever be able to get my daughter back on track.
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3 reasons I took away my daughter’s iPhone and why she PROBABLY won’t be getting it back
#1 She’s obsessed with it. She literally cannot live without it, her head is always looking down at her phone. She is always texting. She has forgotten how to make eye contact with us. She had forgotten how to exist without being plugged into this fantasy world of Twitterlebrities.
# 2 Her behavior does not warrant her the privilege of having a cell phone with internet access. When we got her this phone it was so she would be able to text us when she was away from us. So that we could stay in contact with her and feel safer knowing if we needed to reach her or if she needed to reach us we had a life line. But since getting her phone, and installing internet on said phone, she has become socially withdrawn from us, and yes a tad disrespectful. I feel as though her phone and the life she inhabits while on it gives her a false sense of just how old she is- and she forgets she is still a kid and living under our rules. Having a phone has sped up her maturity, in ways that don’t feel natural to me, and I want to SLOW IT DOWN.
#3 We want her to be more present in real time and in real life and interact without technology. It sounds crazy but, I need to see her without her phone in her hand at all hours of the day. I want her to read more. I want her to interact with her brother and her fursiblings more. I want her to practice her dance routines and stretch when she’s not in class. I just want her to be more present and to not have these years be spent living vicariously through a touch screen.