On December 19th my husband and I celebrated our 20th year of marriage and that only meant one thing….I’ve spent the last 20 years sleeping, in the biblical sense, with the same man. Aka now more than ever I need to brush up on Five Ways You Can Show Love Any Day of the Year (not just Valentine’s Day) and remember that love is not just what happens between the sheets!
And while at this point I couldn’t imagine doing his signature counter clockwise swirl with any other male- let’s put it this way- our sex life while adequate does not include: swinging from the chandelier and lighting candles.
Perhaps the very fact that I use the word adequate is proof that I KILL ROMANCE and maybe I deserve to wear this cap!
I hate admitting that at times I’d rather be playing Scrabble than having sex with my husband, and that watching paint dry is at times infinitely more exciting than my married sex life.
I think ultimately the bottom line is it’s challenging to keep one’s married sex life as titillatingly fresh as that dating and newlywed sex you and your partner once engaged in. More than anything I want to chuck my take-one- for-the-team attitude and really begin to think more in terms of the phrase Carpe Diem when thinking about having sex with my beloved husband. And while it is wonderful that Valentine’s Day is the one day a year that we are encouraged to take our romance up a notch I would love to keep that romantic cheer going all year long Five Ways You Can Show Love Any Day of the Year!
To help all you married ladies out there, as well as myself, keep reading for Five Ways You Can Show Love Any Day of the Year – aka fun and practical ways to keep that romance going 365 days a year.
Five Ways You Can Show Love Any Day of the Year
#1 Rather than make sex a big occasion where you pull out the stops once or twice a year, make an intention to simply focus on performing an intimate act each week. Just don’t wait for a special occasion or until things are ‘perfect’. Life is imperfect, and sex can be imperfect too.
#2 It is never the ‘wrong’ time to share your love with your partner, but when you only do so on special occasions like Valentine’s Day or your anniversary, your significant other might feel as though you are just going through the motions. A dozen roses on V-Day might make them smile, but imagine how much more excited they would be to receive a bouquet on a random Tuesday in the middle of a boring week?
#3 That being said, it does not have to be about material goods. When was the last time you complimented your partner? A genuine, whole-hearted compliment where you look into their eyes and share praise, praise that deeply celebrates who your partner is. Not just how they look (although those compliments are great too) but compliments that focus on who they are, on their unique light, on their being.
#4 Quality time can also be a ‘compliment’ of sorts. When you put your phone down and actually LISTEN to your partner, the affect can be quite dramatic. When you remove those tech distractions and set an intention to be wholly present when you are alone with your partner, you are sending a powerful message: You are important to me. You matter more than anything. I am here. I am with you. Being here now is my priority. Loving you is my privilege. When you commit to making gestures like that part of your daily relationship, you will do untold good for your bond, your emotional well-being and your sexual connection.
#5 And the most important piece of advice to keep the romance going 365 days a year -don’t forget to think of your bedroom as a sanctuary, a place that you escape to an oasis and just have fun! When you turn your bedroom into an oasis for romance, you’ll find that you both want to spend more time there together
So how can you make your bedroom feel more fabulous?
Ditch the non romantic clutter. Move the exercise equipment and all traces of work to another room including pics of your in-laws!
Remember to have FUN in the bedroom too–with aphrodisiacs like CHOCOLATE!Make your Valentine’s Day gift extra special with this red ribbon-tied gold gift box filled with 36 luscious chocolates. In each piece you will discover exquisitely rich chocolate. Includes 36 milk, dark, and white chocolates with classic Belgian fillings, such as silky ganaches, creamy pralines, rich caramels, plus fruits and nuts– Godiva is always a good idea!
And set the mood and light some candles which brings me to You Don’t Need a Reason movement which is all about showing your partner love on any day of the year, not just on particular holidays when we feel obligated.
I feel like Valentine’s Day is just all about retail trying to make money. Showing our love all throughout the year is a must. Great tips!
It’s so important to celebrate your spouse throughout the year. I need to do a better job of making our bedroom a sanctuary and getting rid of all the clutter!
I think you have a lot of great ideas here. I think we should always how our love throughout the year. Valentine’s day may be a day of love, but it should be everyday!
I like your advice on making the bedroom a sanctuary. We have babies so we’re not there yet but I can see that being something that would we benefit from down the road.
I so agree about the bedroom being an oasis! It’s a space that should lend itself to relaxation and peace and so many times we forget this.
Valentine’s Day is just one day in a year. We should aspire to make our partners feel special and wanted all year long! Love that you’re promoting this
I really love this. Valentine’s Day is a great day to show your loved one how much you care, but it’s only one day. There are a lot of other days in the year!
I think it is really important that we make sure that we are showing love every day of the year, not just Valentine’s day!
These are great points. Valentine’s Day can be a good reminder but the love and special moments can continue all year long.
I love this post very much! I feel that while we love our spouse, we tend to really go out of our way on Valentine’s Day. More compliments are something I think is a great thing!