On December 19th my husband and I celebrated our 21st year of marriage and that only means one thing….I’ve spent the last 21 years sleeping, in the biblical sense, with the same man. Aka now more than ever I need to brush up on Five Ways You Can Show Love Any Day of the Year (not just Valentine’s Day) and remember that love is not just what happens between the sheets!
And while at this point I couldn’t imagine doing his signature counter clockwise swirl with any other male- let’s put it this way- our sex life while adequate does not include: swinging from the chandelier and lighting candles.
I hate admitting that at times I’d rather be playing Scrabble than having sex with my husband, and that watching paint dry is at times infinitely more exciting than my married sex life.
I think ultimately the bottom line is it’s challenging to keep one’s married sex life as titillatingly fresh as that dating and newlywed sex you and your partner once engaged in. More than anything I want to chuck my take-one- for-the-team attitude and really begin to think more in terms of the phrase Carpe Diem when thinking about having sex with my beloved husband. And while it is wonderful that Valentine’s Day is the one day a year that we are encouraged to take our romance up a notch I would love to keep that romantic cheer going all year long Five Ways You Can Show Love Any Day of the Year!
To help all you married ladies out there, as well as myself, keep reading for Five Ways You Can Show Love Any Day of the Year – aka fun and practical ways to keep that romance going 365 days a year.
Five Ways You Can Show Love Any Day of the Year
#1 Rather than make sex a big occasion where you pull out the stops once or twice a year, make an intention to simply focus on performing an intimate act each week. Just don’t wait for a special occasion or until things are ‘perfect’. Life is imperfect, and sex can be imperfect too.
#2 It is never the ‘wrong’ time to share your love with your partner, but when you only do so on special occasions like Valentine’s Day or your anniversary, your significant other might feel as though you are just going through the motions. A dozen roses on V-Day might make them smile, but imagine how much more excited they would be to receive a bouquet on a random Tuesday in the middle of a boring week?
#3 That being said, it does not have to be about material goods. When was the last time you complimented your partner? A genuine, whole-hearted compliment where you look into their eyes and share praise, praise that deeply celebrates who your partner is. Not just how they look (although those compliments are great too) but compliments that focus on who they are, on their unique light, on their being.
#4 Quality time can also be a ‘compliment’ of sorts. When you put your phone down and actually LISTEN to your partner, the affect can be quite dramatic. When you remove those tech distractions and set an intention to be wholly present when you are alone with your partner, you are sending a powerful message: You are important to me. You matter more than anything. I am here. I am with you. Being here now is my priority. Loving you is my privilege. When you commit to making gestures like that part of your daily relationship, you will do untold good for your bond, your emotional well-being and your sexual connection.
#5 And the most important piece of advice to keep the romance going 365 days a year -don’t forget to think of your bedroom as a sanctuary, a place that you escape to an oasis and just have fun! When you turn your bedroom into an oasis for romance, you’ll find that you both want to spend more time there together
So how can you make your bedroom feel more fabulous?
Ditch the non romantic clutter. Move the exercise equipment and all traces of work to another room including pics of your in-laws!
Remember to have FUN in the bedroom too–with aphrodisiacs like CHOCOLATE!Make your Valentine’s Day gift extra special with this red ribbon-tied gold gift box filled with 36 luscious chocolates. In each piece you will discover exquisitely rich chocolate. Includes 36 milk, dark, and white chocolates with classic Belgian fillings, such as silky ganaches, creamy pralines, rich caramels, plus fruits and nuts– Godiva is always a good idea!
And set the mood and light some candles which brings me to You Don’t Need a Reason movement which is all about showing your partner love on any day of the year, not just on particular holidays when we feel obligated.
My husband and I do enjoy spending time together. We went on a day date yesterday and had a blast. I also compliment him, though sometimes he gets suspicious. “What did you do to my truck??”
These are some lovely ideas of ways to show you love someone across the year. I spend a lot of time with my other half I really enjoy his company but I’m not sure I let him know that enough.
Honestly, I show my love and appreciation to my loved ones every single day just by showing that I care and am interested in their lives and what they\’re up to. Gifts are not necessary to show love in my opinion – although it is my husband\’s love language LOL
One of my favorite books is The 5 Love Languages. It helped me understand my marriage and children in a way that I hadn\’t fully understood before. Love should be celebrated and shared every day!
My husband and I have a lot of fun together! I always tell him if I was going to be stranded on a desert island, with anyone, I would choose him. Partly because I know he would eventually get us off the island.
I definitely like the idea of dedicating some time without phones just to talk and listen to one another. It makes a big difference.
These are great tips. I agree, It’s so important to keep the romance going throughout the year.
It is very important to show love every day of the year. While my husband and I are very much in love, using these 5 ways are very important.
So first of all make your own truffles sounds like a gift that would be perfect for both of us actually. Love the candles too. Sometimes it is just taking thew time right? This post is relatable because after a while it’s easy to take spouses for granted.
These are great ideas, and it is nice to have some ideas to do some thoughtful things to do during the year, not just on Valentine’s Day.
These are all great ways to show love any day of the year! It\’s important to show love whenever you can. These days, just being treated kindly is love enough for me, but really? It\’s more about when he naturally does dinner and household chores on the weekends since I do that all week long while he works outside of the home.
These are really great and awesome ideas! Let’s make it a habit to always express and show our love for our special ones. Thanks for sharing.
Yes, quality time is so important for partners! It’s so easy to get busy in some not important things.
Happy 21st Anniversary. Love doesn’t rely on the occasion rather unexpected or without occasion is always amazing.
This is a really great idea. I think people get carried away with holidays and don’t really think about the forced aspect of it that kind of takes away from it all. I love this!
I think these are all wonderful ideas. I think sometimes just spending quality time together is all you need. My husband and I don’t do anything for Valentine’s Day, we usually just stay home.
I agree that it’s important to show love all year long. These are some great ideas. I think quality time is a great gift too.
These are great tips to show the love to our loved ones. I might be interested doing one of the tips here. Thanks for sharing!
These are great tips, yes love should not be waiting for any occasion or holiday it should there for 365 days. Both I and hubby love each other and life become little hectic after kids, still there is love there.
I absolutely love this. My husband and I don’t celebrate Valentine’s day. We think every day is special, and we need to show love, capture memories all year long.