No two words strike more fear in the heart of husbands and boyfriends than the two words, “Valentine’s day”. Why? Because so many of us women have incredibly high and often time unrealistic expectations of what our significant others should or should not gift us on this holiday of love. More often than not- women may view a gift as a litmus test of just how deep her guy’s love for her runs. And well, that in and of itself, can cause well-intentioned significant others who are perhaps not the savviest of gift givers to break out in a cold sweat. So there tend to be lots of us, particularly males, who fret about what to do for Valentine’s Day.
And you don’t have to get caught up in the peer pressure or commercialism associated with Valentine’s Day– thanks to these practically free gifts that will win the heart of your Valentine.
- Put it in writing.
Write a list of qualities that you appreciate about your loved one, and put those words in a card, poem, or a short video of you reading the list.
- Stir up memories.
Jot down 5 or so of your favorite, most precious memories of your partner and the time you’ve spent together, and convey them verbally.
- Grant a wish.
Put yourself in your lover’s shoes and think of a chore or an activity that would bring a smile or ease some stress. Then make it happen.
- Spend some time.
Arrange an outing to a favorite place you share, maybe a hike or a stroll around a special neighborhood. Or just take the evening off from your normal routine and cook a favorite dinner.
- Be emotionally generous.
Refrain from making negative jokes about Valentine’s Day or your loved one’s views about the day. Regardless of how you feel, only say positive things.
- Lend an ear.
Set up a cozy place to talk and ask your loved one questions about life, dreams, wishes, and feelings. Offer to “just listen” while she talks and shares. Don’t interrupt.
- Clean the slate.
Valentine’s Day is as good a day as any to let go of any grudges you’re holding and to accept your loved one, flaws and all. This will help you genuinely say, “I love you just as you are.”
- Fall in love anew.
Allow yourself to fall in love again. Conjure memories and feelings of a time you were full of feelings of love for your Valentine, and keep your focus there. Recall the way you felt when you first met.