So I’m sitting at the computer wondering how I got to this point in my life? I did everything, my good little girl self was told. I ate my veggies, never talked to strangers and always crossed my legs while sitting. I played by the rules; I got married- by those very same rules. I played house, or tried to for a long time, especially after we had kids. We had that life– that life I was told since I was a little girl was the one I should covet and work towards. And now this life, this picture has faded, and here I am a single mom who spends her nights online looking at pictures of strangers in front of me, trying to weed out just who might be a match and my only thought is… I’m gonna be alone forever!
Where are the single, good looking guys online? Why is everyone hiding behind sunglasses or a huge hat? And what is it with the group shots as your profile pic? Which one Are you?? Are these men hiding a facial deformity that I would NEVER notice in person?
After scrolling through my 200 “matches” ( I say the word matches in quotations as, based on my past experiences, I wouldn’t dare set up my worst frenemy with one of these potential suitors) I finally manage to weed out one or two possibilities from this seeming cesspool of single men who apparently all have a predilection for sunsets.
And even as I choose to respond to two of them , in my head, I’m already pleading, “potential date please do not lie about your age or put a pic up from 10 years ago! I WILL notice these discrepancies in person and in doing so you are just wasting my time and yours. ”
I want to believe there is a guy out there who looks exactly like his online picture, because I KNOW I do…. am I insane for wanting or even expecting this?Does it even exist?
I have bucket-loads of experience with online dating, although I quit at the end of 2003 because I had met my 3rd husband. Now he’s my 3rd ex-husband, but that’s beside the point.
Recently I took a look at what Match.com had become and discovered the vast majority of the profiles were fakes meant to attract people (men & women) into online scams. I could go on & on about the evidence and my conclusions, but the bottomline is… beware. The person behind the profile might actually be in a foreign country, not your town.
Note that I said “vast majority.” That was intentional. Those profiles show up as winking at you, wanting to chat with you, and everything else. It’s easy to waste time on such nonsense.
You are me, I am you or whatever! I am doing the EXACT same thing these days. I just wrote a post about the screen names of some of the guys online. I have been on the down-low for too long, so I am forcing ,yself to give it a shot. Good luck!
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