I know I take it for granted too. Yet watching my husband get ready for a big date night out, how he shaves his face, preens in front of the mirror examining every last wrinkle and new growth (yes as we age all of a sudden some of us begin to grow these weird skin tags in the oddest of places- but that’s another post), in those few seconds I watch him and kind of fall in love with him all over again. And so I am Trying to appreciate the little things my husband does in our marriage.
It’s hard to appreciate the little things in your marriage for instance if you’ve got a husband like mine who, when left at home with a day off from me and our kids, upon my return was sitting in the very same spot I’d left him in and when asked what he did all day responded with, ” Nothing , I was waiting for you to tell me what to do”.
Do I realize what a privilege it is to grow old with him–no not everyday. But then there are those moments when I will look at him across a crowded room talking to strangers and think there is my husband, a bit more gray than he was 20 years ago – the first day we met- but still seeing him, watching him move in his slightly stiff stance (he’s a pretty reserved fella) I feel it. I feel a surge of excitement welling up in my chest.
I look at him and I see the little things he remembers; like when he makes me coffee- pouring in the cream and heaping in the sugar, cranking up Mary J. Blige in the car even though I know he prefers talk radio, and when I cant sleep at night letting me wake him up so I can talk to him about it. (Granted he keeps his eyes closed the whole time- but if I poke him and ask him to repeat what I just said, he’ll regurgitate the gist of it).
So I’m trying to appreciate the little things in my marriage and remember I love him.
I love this! It’s so important for wives AND husbands to appreciate the little things that their other spouse does. Even if it’s when my husband puts his dish in the dishwasher or I pretend to care about football. 😉
What a wonderful post. I will never forget the day my husband looked at me and told me how much he appreciated me for always making sure he had clean clothes. Silly, but it made me cry. It’s always nice to be appreciated.
It’s good for your relationships when you’re able to notice those little things. They can go unnoticed too easily!
That’s wonderful. It is so easy to take those little things for granted as the years go by and yet, it’s those little things that were so important in the beginning.
Showing appreciation is definitely a way to help a marriage last. Glad you still feel that sweet spark!
What a great love story. Great example for other couples.
Sometimes the quirks our husbands have can be annoying. However, we sometimes let those overshadow the amazing things they do more often.