When I met my husband who, at the time, was a ripe age of 38- he had NEVER BEEN MARRIED. And unless I planted the seed, “Get engaged or we cannot continue dating” chances are 18 years of mostly married bliss later he would still be a bachelor. I don’t think it’s that he doesn’t love being married ( although I’m sure he would be totally cool without my constant reminders of things he needs to do) in fact I recently told him he doesn’t need to wear his wedding band anymore ( since I never wear mine) and he flat out refused to take it off- I do think there are moments when whether it is consciously or subconsciously he truly FORGETS or Pretends that he is still that swinging 38-year-old bachelor eating takeout every night by himself ( as opposed to the takeout we usually eat together LOL). There are certain things he does which would make a stranger who just happened upon our lives truly believe that he was indeed a bachelor as opposed to a man married 18 years with two kids, two dogs and lots of responsibility.
I’m sure I too am guilty of sailing through life pretending via certain actions that I’m a singleton- in fact my husband thinks I should wear my wedding band. When I ask my husband why he does these things he tells me this:
“It’s not intentional. Just thoughtlessness”- Yeah- I don”t know- I’m kind of not BUYING his clueless routine…
#1: He thinks it’s absolutely fine to have a refrigerator that only houses cold beer. I’m serious if I took a photo of the inside of my fridge right now you would call Child Protective services on us- thinking we feed our kids a healthy diet of beer and beer alone. I made this point to him today and he said, ” really I didn’t notice” ( For the record he does the shopping in this house that is part of our marital agreement)
#2: When he does goes shopping he buys enough for one person. I do believe that when he goes into a store he is somehow transported 18 years back in time at which point buying three apples for the week would be totally cool. But buying three apples for a family of four for a week- well THAT amount is sufficient for a day.
#3 He still keeps his OLD ADDRESS book. My husband has this faux wood rolodex address book that no matter how frayed it is and the fact that he hasn’t opened it in 18 years to be exact- he needs to keep it in the kitchen. I’ve thumbed through the book as pages literally came off – and yes I scanned names of many women ( his exes) and while I still don’t understand why he insists on keeping this worn down book- he says I should leave it alone. IF THAT DOESN’T SCREAM BACHELOR I don’t know what does!
So can you relate? Does your spouse cling to their pre-marriage items and or act like they are still single?
I am cracking up because my husband does all of these things, too! I guess they are all the same LOL 🙂
I thought as I started reading, there is no way that my husband does things that are bachelor like…then the more I read, the more I was wrong. He will sit up at all hours of the night playing video games like he did before we were married. He leaves his car a mess, and thinks nothing of the papers he has scattered in the back seat where our daughter has to move them out of the way to take a seat. Men! Hahah.
Ha Ha Ha ! I love it! The rolodex is a crack up! My guy does the grocery store thing. For the life of me I shall never understand, but that’s why we love them right?
Oh the beer fridge! I am planning on getting my husband a mini fridge for the garage because his beer ends up taking up all of my crisper drawers in my fridge lol
I’m pretty sure the only bachelor behavior my husband DOESN’T exhibit is going after other women. It’s a little ridiculous how many times I have to remind him he’s 34 with two kids.
Haha!! This is awesome! I can see my husband does some of these things too! They low key haven’t gotten out of the Bachelor life.
LOL such a relatable post! I love how honest you are, and then how you even reflect on your own behavior! Great post 🙂
Haha love this and can definitely relate! My man has recently been requesting 2 minute noodles for dinner every night – what is that ?? haha! Why would you want bland noodles when I’m cooking something delicious!
It is just my husband and me. It’s really cute that he loves riding his motorcycle, I’m sure it makes him feel young! I don’t think men will ever be good at grocery shopping!
Hahaha this is hilarious! I’m not married yet, but I’ll let you know if my future husband does any of these!
I snagged my sweetie 40 years ago at the ripe age of 18 and so he never really got to do the bachelor thing. I think he’s ok with how it all turned out, though!
It is amazing that you managed to turn this bachelor into your husband and that you are together 18 years later! The thought of him keeping an address book from all those years ago did make me laugh though LOL!
I think my guy has adjusted to partnered life pretty well. I’m the one that keeps the beer fridge in our house, hahahaha. 😉 Old habits die hard.
I cannot begin to tell you about my husband’s “bachelor” ways. I guess there will always be a little part of them that will remain the same.
I am cracking up about buying all the cold beer. My husband has no concept of time and other people waiting on him LOL!
Hilarious! The beer in the fridge is definitely funny. I am not sure what it is about growing up out of some of their ways that men are more stubborn about. But, you got to take the good with the bad lol.
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My husband actually doesn’t have any of these issues. He doesn’t drink beer, he always overbuys for me when he goes shopping alone, and I have actually had to talk him into keeping some of his pre-marriage stuff.
This is a funny list because it is very true for some men. They have their very own mindset that’s for sure! My husband isn’t a drinker either.
I met my husband when he was 21…so we really didn’t have an adult life without each other. I always wonder how much would be different if we met later in life!!
Since I’m not married I can’t really speak to the acting like a bachelor. I will say though that I do think some men take some of their bachelor qualities/habits with them into marriage. Either because they don’t see the need to change or don’t realize it bothers their wife. We all have our little quirks so if it isn’t causing too big an issue I would just laugh it off.
So true! We have a beer fridge that houses his favorite brew. Although I have made sure that he leaves a little bit of room for my white wine!
This is so funny! My husband is actually opposite with grocery shopping. He buys in such ridiculous bulk that I absolutely never want him to do all our shopping. He ends up overspending by hundreds of dollars and buys way too much of things that go bad fast.
I have to say that I am not sure what habits he may hold from before marriage. This post was so fun though!
That is too funny! Surprisingly, my husband doesn’t really act like a bachelor. However, even though he very, very seldom drinks, he sure LOVES his junk food!