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Sitting at a wedding with my husband recently–I kept thinking -What Would You tell Your Bride to be Self about Marriage and more importantly what would be on your Wedding Registry Checklist 101?
We will be married to for a total of 21 years this December ( EEK!) –and we began talking about all the things we wish we could tell our younger about-to-be-married selves about marriage–and all the things NOT TO DO…
And I know I'm not alone in wistfully looking back on these past 20 years and thinking– GEE what the hell was I thinking when I invited that person to my wedding– and why didn't I just do what I wanted- why did I feel so compelled to please everyone but myself?
I also know I am not the only bride who wishes she could look her younger self square in the jaw and say-” Hey babe, do what you want- this is your wedding, your marriage, your life.
Also don't be a right fighter and try to remember to enjoy yourself every once in a while ESPECIALLY before you start popping out those kids!
BUT I DIGRESS…
The very first piece of advice I would give my blushing about to be bride is what to put on my wedding registry.
With the hindsight of 20 years of marriage I wish I could go back to that young bride and COMPLETELY change her wedding registry list! I will never forget registering for gifts, some of them not very useful, but I remember most of what I got and who gave it to us. For the most part I remember the vases I registered for and have placed and they have stayed in the same spot on my china closet and get little use but are good remembrances.
Having learned from my own mistakes I suggest that practical items like a microwave oven, a good food processor or useful tools make the most sense. I know what you are thinking…NOT VER ROMANTIC but let me be the first to tell you that REAL marriage is no fairytale. You need to be practical and you need every resource to help you navigate through the peaks and valleys that will ultimately test your union!
In this vane Erie Insurance did a survey of items and the percentage who wish they had registered for it, percentage who did register for it, and the percentage still glad they did.
Part of the purpose was to educate consumers that if they receive particularly valuable items, such as fine china, silver or art work, they should contact their insurance agent to see if they should add the items to their homeowners insurance policy. And while technically it’s not a wedding gift you’d register for, you might want to consider adding your engagement ring to a policy.
I have always insured my engagement ring and other fine jewelry. Contacting Erie Insurance could be the best move you make second to making the most important choice of your life, your spouse. Being covered and well insured is a gift that all new and old couples feel good about.
Wedding Registry Checklist 101 -Get Erie Insurance
When it comes to wedding registry items most couples requested –the Erie survey provided some interesting results.
The items that most people were as follows:
Robotic vacuum cleaner
58% (wish they registered for)
17% (did register)
88% (still glad they did)
Food saver/vacuum seal system
I hope this list helps prospective couples when they sit down and make their registry list. It also will be important to insure your home and valuables with homeowners insurance and Erie Insurance is a great company to use when the time comes.
And if you need a few more things to keep in mind as you prepare for your life as a married couple So I took an informal poll and asked a bunch of incredibly smart and accomplished women for their take on what they wish they could tell their younger soon to be married selves about what's truly important in marriage.
And here are their golden nuggets of wisdom!
What Would You tell Your Bride to be Self about Marriage?
“I would elope.”
“hmm, let me think. For my wedding, I wouldn't really change anything except that I wouldn't have let my mother start up with my grandfather and thus he didn't come. For my marriage, I would have not tried to be the little wifey so much-my husband is so spoiled.
I would have bought a house and had an intimate gathering with family and friends.. (we do own now I just would rather have invested more )
I would have been married another year or two before we had kids so we could have explored more of the world together/ We were pregnant within the first year of being married.
I would have had a small wedding with just family. I feel that all of the details (flowers, seating arrangements, dessert decisions, family photos) got in the way. I also would not have registered for gifts, that also took too much time and energy.
I think it's a common thought. I would have made a smaller, less lavish wedding and waited longer to have kids. I was 33 and worried that it would take a while to become pregnant (Ben was born almost 14 months after our wedding).
I'd choose a different husband (says the divorcee)
I concur– Thank G-d for second chances.
Here's what I wish I'd done differently for the wedding:
1. Gotten padding sewn into the bosom of the dress, like the lady at Kleinfeld's told me to.
2. Had enough foresight to realize that the staff at the historic Fort Hamilton were too goyish to know that when we asked for a glass for the end of the ceremony for Dave to step on, we wanted a THIN glass, not a lowball glass. Poor guy – it kept slipping out from the napkin each time he tried to stomp on it – he had to chase it around for a little while before he finally ended up taking it and throwing it against the wall. THEN it broke.Here's what I would change about the marriage: Absolutely nothing. I'm sorry, I know I'm in the minority and extremely fortunate, but it's the truth.
I so love everyone of these comments. What would I change and did change? Stop being so conciliatory and speaking my mind up front. MY DH is of the mind that “everyone is entitled to his opinion.” More often than not we laugh about it…but when he's being an asshole – now we get that out in the open real fast. So there!
So tell me- if you could tell your younger, about-to-be-married-blushing-bride-to- be-self one thing- what would it be?