I do believe in having an open marriage, no, not in the taking on of additional sex partners, rather an open marriage insofar as I have the freedom to share any thoughts or feelings I harbor with my better half.
This marriage relationship is ultimately one of the most intimate relationships you will have with another being in your lifetime so of course it would be nearly impossible to sustain a long term successful marriage without complete and utter transparency on the part of both spouses. But by the same token telling your husband certain bits of information about yourself, aka secrets, would be counterproductive and might sabotage an otherwise fabulous marital union.
The bottom line is this, sometimes less is more and discretion can be the best tool you've got in your how-to-have-a-successful-marriage bag of tricks. So don't necessarily think of these as secrets you can't share, but rather as four things better left unsaid. I am not condoning secrets– just saying that these things you shouldn't share are facts that won't add to your relationship, it's addition by subtraction, by giving less you'll actually make your marriage better. Oh and if you have this burning need to share these four key secrets, well that's what your girlfriends are for!
So without further ado, here are the TOP four secrets all wives should keep from their husbands:
#1 Don't talk about past sexual conquests.
That kind of information, will just give power to past sexual lovers, and really what good will that do in the long run for your marriage. And think of it this way, how will that information enhance your relationship?
#2 Don't tell them how much something really costs.
Let's face it, most husbands would rather not have their wives spend money on frivolous things like hair highlights, or that pair of slingbacks you just had to purchase. But if you feel this burning need to share your latest purchase with him- keep the REAL cost a secret- or in other words just fudge the numbers a little bit.
#3 Don't tell him how much you really weigh.
A little mystery can never be a bad thing; it will help keep your husband guessing, and what he doesn't know can't hurt him.
#4 Don't share anything unflattering your mother has said about him (with him).
Men have memories like elephants (even if they pretend not to remember anything). Mother-in-laws and husbands don't always mix very well- why add this fuel to the fire. This can never lead to anything good. Just put on a happy face- and tell your husband your mother thinks he is simply THE BEST.
Of course this post is meant to be SLIGHTLY tongue-n-cheek but you get the gist- right? So have you got any to add?
Hahaha! My husband thinks everything cost me $10. Even those boots I have that were actually $400…..
These are some good tips LOL especially the one that you don’t tell him what your mother said about him. My mom and my husband along very well so I’m glad that I don’t have to worry about this, but it is definitely something you don’t want to share with him. I always try to spare his feelings
This was a hilarious post. I’m so glad I don’t have to worry about keeping my mom’s comments away from my husband. Sometimes I think she loves him more than me! LOL
This is so funny! My husband always thinks that I bargain shop. Not all the time though. Shhh!
I can remember way back when they used to put price stickers on groceries. My Mom would always remove all the them as soon as she got home. She did not want to hear my Dad complain about how much things cost.
Thanks for the giggle. I believe some things you should just not talk about with your spouse. We never talk about our Ex’s.
Sometimes I will hang new clothes in my closet and pretend that I’ve had it for a while. It’s not like he’s going to remember every single piece of clothing I own.
I try to avoid talking about how much my shoes and clothes cost. He has learned not to ask over the years lol.
My husband and I are on a health journey together so he knows how much I weigh. For years I kept this information secret lol. Now he is such a positive influence on me to reach my goals.
I completely agree with all of these. I don’t think they need to be shared either. Same goes for the opposite though, I don’t need to hear about some of these from my husband either!
I practice number 2 a lot. What he doesnt know maybe doesnt hurt him. I hope.
Wow, all 4 secrets should be required reading for newlywed brides. I could not agree more about talking about how much things cost, $ is usually the #1 source of arguments in any marriage.
LOL! I enjoyed reading your post. I know just about all of my friends definitely do not reveal the cost of their shopping trips. I think their husbands “know” but it just goes down easier to gloss over the actual cost. 😉
Haha! Yes, we all have things we keep from our husbands that do not really hurt them! lol. Especially our weight. No one needs to know that! lol
I feel hiding what you spent is very poor practice. I’d be fuming mad if my husband did not tell the truth to me. Bills need to be paid. Budgets matter, and lying is not how you grow a relationship.
I have probably broken all these rules except one. I need to learn to keep my mouth shut!
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